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Showing posts with label A Gift Of Life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label A Gift Of Life. Show all posts

04 March 2008

Are The Poor Left For Dead?

Following her path to recovery was this nagging question at the back of my head and in recent weeks and I was debating internally if I should blog about it for the longest time and hence the time lag between her "birthday" celebration and this entry. I met up with Chrissy over a game of golf during the Ch1nese New Year and had an in-depth talk with her over this question that has been flashing in my head over and over again.

The question?

Did she survive because she is financially comfortable? Would she have lived if she were poorer? 

Chrissy's background is what I would say above average and I was wondering if she got through this relatively (I stress the word "relatively") smoothly as a result of her financial standing? After all, aren't chemotherapy, marrow transplants and all related medication very expensive?

How would someone of lower income level be able to handle medical bills of this magnitude? Would they be left for dead simply because they can't afford the treatment?

Chrissy and I think the answer is YES and NO based on the following points, which we say upfront here that we may not be totally accurate.
  • Her medical bills were adequately covered by her insurance policies (hospitalisation and critical illnesses) and that she only had to pay for a small portion of the total bill which to her family and her was manageable.


  • Chrissy was lucky to have her insurance policies in place just a few months prior to being diagnosed with Leukemia. As a result, her insurance policies took care of a big chunk of the expenses. Problem is, how many of the poorer folks can actually afford an insurance policy? With getting food onto the table already a daily challenge, you can be sure that an insurance policy is definitely not on their list of priorities at that point in time.

    Ok, so that was an extreme example. Chrissy's total bill came up to the lower part of 6-figures and granted the insurance payout took care of the a big chunk of the bill, the balance amount may still be too big for some folks.

  • Pertaining to folks of the lower income level, she said that the Gahmen and various charitable agencies have adequate funds in place to help those patients who have difficulty with the treatment costs. However, she and I both agreed that there are quite a few of these people who have fallen through the cracks and did not receive the help that they could/would/should get.


  • Yes, there is money for treatment for the less financially fortunate. However, every cent of this money needs to be accounted for and so these aid givers have a responsibility* to stretch every dollar in order to make the money go to the maximum number of people possible. That means maximise the dollar to accommodate maximum number of qualified applicants.


    • In order words, every applicant must be stringently checked to prevent abuse by those who can afford the treatment but pretend they can't and thereby deny aid to the next genuine case. As a result of the various necessary procedures, the entire process will be relatively longer as compared to those who have the money to handle everything on their own. Procedures means forms and paperwork since accountability requires that of a transparent paper trail in the event an audit is in order. Can you feel the time ticking away here? I am not saying that we should abolish the red tapes. These are unavoidable as we need these checks and balances to keep the funds honest. The downside is that many a times we heard of stories that by the time the aid arrives after all the "administrative processing" is completed, the patient has already died.

    • Option of treatment shall be that of the most economical alternative i.e. saving 2 lives with cheaper medicine but taking twice as long will always trump saving 1 life in half the time with more expensive medicine. While cheaper medicine may not necessarily mean inferior in quality, Chrissy told me that the more expensive medication alternative are more effective i.e. cheaper medicine may still get you to the point of recovery but just not as fast as that of the more expensive ones.


    • Would aid be denied to those patients whom the aid giver think is a lost cause i.e. beyond point of recovery? Would the aid giver be forced to play to role of God to decide who is to be saved and who is not? With money being a finite amount, I won't be surprised if the aid giver have to decide to give the dollar to the first person in line but is already too sick and going to die with or without treatment or skip over to the next person behind him/her who has an actual shot at full recovery?
* assuming no peanuts, golden taps and other RenCirregularities.

Here's my take on the situation.
  • Yes, it is not possible to achieve parity between the haves and have-nots under the circumstances. What we have for the less financially-abled may not be perfect nor as good as those who have the money, it is in my opinion good enough. Not perfect but certainly not shabby.


  • Granted that using public money would mean a less straight-forward and a more tedious road to recovery (resulting in some of them not able to complete the journey), what the aid-givers must do is to ensure the fastest journey possible within their means i.e. no stupid ding dongs as a result of incompetent administration.


  • So the bottom-line here is to aim to be as self-reliant as possible. Chrissy is in her 30s when this happened and so do not think that there is no hurry to get all the various relevant insurance policies in place. Critical illness is not an "old-people" thing. It can happen to anyone at any time.


  • Still, it also doesn't mean that you should just run out to the first insurance agent you meet and put money down on the first policy that comes to you. You still need to do a bit of research to find that policy that would fit and best serve your interest and not the agent's pocket.

    Gerry also accurately pointed out the need to be covered adequately as one would still run into trouble if the chalked up bill exceeds your coverage.

    I suggest checking out http://tankinlian.blogspot.com. An excellent resource on the topic of local insurance.


  • If you need assistance, please put your hand up. The various charitable agencies do not have a radar that would sniff out those in need. As many as there are folks who received help and made it through the day, we speculate that they may be as many who didn't as a result of not asking for help. It could be ignorance i.e. don't know where to look for help or worse, don't know that help even existed in the first place or it could just be a matter of too much pride.

    Help starts with oneself and external help cannot be effective if internally you are not doing anything about it.
- Voxeros

1. CoWg0eSm0o left...
Tuesday, 4 March 2008 10:57 am
Well here's my simple take on this:
It's been quite well-known that the red-tapes in place for application of public funds for healthcare's pretty mad. While this is really bad for the patients (since as u mentioned, by the time aid arrives it may be too late), but well you may have to think from the perspective of the aid-givers and the govt. That they are not trying to encourage a socialist setting like overseas.
And yes...Leukemia's a really horrible disease. Chrissy's recovery will really serves as an motivator for my aunt who just got diagnosed with it, 5 years after her recovery from stomach cancer.


2. JayWalk left...
Tuesday, 4 March 2008 11:01 pm :: 
CowGoesMoo: Ahh.. spoken like a true Republican. Socialist similar to the Democrat, while noble is their idea not to leave anyone behind is more often than not, subjected to abuse by people who sit around doing nothing and expecting handouts. As the PAP has described, the so called "crutch mentality".

However, in legitimate cases, these administrators have a duty of urgency and not process these cases on a nonchalant mentality. Perhaps it is this part of the process that really rile people up, if any at all.

My regards to your aunt but from past experience, Leukemia if detected early have a high chance of recovery. I have another friend M1ke Norr1s who got diagnosed with Leukemia around the same time as Chrissy also fully recovered.


3. grasshopper left...
Saturday, 8 March 2008 7:38 am
i bery bery bery agree with your blog title. Unfortunately my family had to go thru a cancer horror-story recently. And to have personally went thru this drama, I would say that your chances of surviving increases with the amount of immediate cash you can spare. I can't say much as I know it's not the health care workers' fault. But after moving to a private cancer treatment center (=$$$$$), my papa's situation improved tremendously. sigh~


4. JayWalk left...
Sunday, 9 March 2008 9:55 pm :: 
Grasshopper: Glad to hear that your dad's ok. The problem with public money is that every applicant is has a fair shot at it. Problem is that is very difficult to decide who gets the first dollar, who gets the next and who gets the last?

Everybody wants to get the first dollar since cancer is one that is time sensitive but having to form a queue beckons the question why one patient is ahead of the other? Who makes this decision and how does he/she justify?

03 March 2008

A Gift Of Life (Part 8) - A Year Later

I wondered if anyone remembered Chrissy whom slightly over a year ago back in end-2006, I blogged about her battle with Leukemia?

If no, may I suggest you read the following archives before proceeding.


We knew she went through the painful treatment of Chemotherapy and even then, she put others ahead of her by organising a Bone Marrow Donor drive of which my thanks to my fellow friends, blogger friends, fellow Barflies from CowBoyBar as well as Tomorrow.sg who helping to spread the word of the event which was a success.

So how is Chrissy now?
 
Well, I am happy to report that shortly after that Bone Marrow drive, she went for a marrow transplant herself (she has a marrow match from her brother) and it was a success.

Last month, she celebrated her "first birthday" on 16 January 2008 and here's wishing her many many more birthdays to come.

- Voxeros

1. sunflower left...
Monday, 3 March 2008 1:00 pm
Oo She is having the same birthday as me...
Anyway... happy to hear she is well now....


2. JayWalk left...
Monday, 3 March 2008 1:35 pm :: 
sunflower: Indeed she is. Doubly happy on that day from now on!


3. starm|st left...
Sunday, 9 March 2008 12:06 am :: http://starmist.liquidblade.com
great to know she's doing better now..


4. JayWalk left...
Sunday, 9 March 2008 9:57 pm :: 
Starmist: Welcome to the blog! Chrissy is not only doing better, she is doing great. She is actively seeking volunteer assignments as a way to give back what the kindness of the people around her has given her. Kudos!

14 May 2007

A Gift Of Life (Part 7) - Doing Fine

It's been a while since I last contacted Chrissy. I drop her a few sms in the past but all were met with silence. Given that she has her treatment to undergo and stuff, I dare not disturb her further.

Also work has been really hectic for me and one of the items on my task list was to drop her an email to say hi and to find out how she it. Embarrassingly, the item sat there for the longest time. Whenever I was just about to sit down and draft the email, something would crop up, be it a phone call or an incoming sms, and the intended email goes back into the draft folder again.
Email is something that I dread to touch and that further aggravates things. In order to send an email, I have to open my Outlook Express and before you know it, hundreds of emails would come streaming in and I would be buried to my eyeballs trying to clear them.

Oh wait.... what was I supposed to do again? Send Chrissy an email? I forget.

Anyway, perhaps it was due to the fact that I was about to head home this weekend that finally gave me that extra push to finally write that email. Perhaps it was the cosmic forces or the alignment of the planets that finally gravitate my fingers to click send.

And what better timing that the eve of her birthday!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CHRISSY!!! 

Not only was I glad to have sent out the email, I was even more happy to receive her reply bearing good news.

She has gotten her transplant back in Jan 2007 and is recovering well now. Her life is very much back to normal with a bit of golf here, yoga there and even cycling!

Again, on her behalf, I thank all well wishers who has supported her all this while and I am very happy to be the messenger of good tidings.
Thank you everyone! Thank you.

Click here to read past entries from The Gift Of Life Series.
- Voxeros

1. sunflower left...
Thursday, 17 May 2007 11:19 am
I was thinking how is she now as well.... thanks for the update


2. JayWalk left...
Monday, 21 May 2007 1:13 am :: 
sunflower: You are most welcome!

14 November 2006

A Gift Of Life (Part 6) - Chrissy Says Thanks!

Just returned from Hong Kong  hospital after executing an emergency medivac  (Medical Evacuation) for a client/friend yesterday.  Will talk more about it in detail tomorrow.

For now, some good cheer as Chrissy's bone marrow drive yielded 81 new donors. As a token of appreciation, Chrissy wrote a letter of thanks to everyone and I am putting it up here.

Also, my personal thanks to all those who have supported this drive, one way or another.
Thank you.



Thank you for your GIFT OF LIFE!

Tan Chrissy <chri22ytan@yahoo.com>     Sun, Nov 12, 2006 at 9:29 PM

We would like to say a very BIG THANK YOU, to all the 81 people who signed up with the Bone Marrow Donor Programme, and the rest who showed up to lend their support even if they were not ready to sign up yet. We hope that they will do so at the next drive! Also, to those who generously contributed to the Bone Marrow Donor Programme fund. We collected $3150 in donations! The cost of typing each donor is $150, so every cent counts.

Click here to view photos of the event.

Special thanks to:

1) Alan and Peggy for their generosity in providing Aramsa-The Garden Spa as the venue, and the delicious food and beverage;

2) Shahirah and Chin for pricking the fingers of the 81 donors;

3) Kar Keat for taking time out to share his experience of donating his bone marrow;

4) Jaywalk and his blog friends for including the drive event in their blogs;

5) Chris Ng for mentioning it in his email to his clients; and

6) Those who could not come but still forwarded the email to all their friends.

Till the next one!

Cheers,

Chrissy and Jolene
- Voxeros


03 November 2006

A Gift Of Life (Part 5) - Thank You

 We are two more days away from the marrow drive and it is certainly very heartening to see so many good  people out there stepping forward and landing a hand in whatever way they are able to provide.

My personal thanks to the following people who have graciously agreed to help spread the word on their respective blogs.

--> AngKuKueh @ http://akkueh.blogspot.com
 
--> gunmetal:red @ http://nuttytentacle.blogspot.com/
 
--> Aloeve @ http://www.xanga.com/aloeve


--> Lexandria @  http://alcoholicbitch.wordpress.com/
 
--> Sunflower @ http://sunflower700.blogspot.com
 
--> Meepok @ http://meepoktah.blog-city.com
 
--> limboy @ http://lim-boy.blogspot.com
 
--> nadnut @ http://nadnut.liquidblade.com

--> CoWg0eSm0o @ http://cowg0esm0o.blogspot.com/
 
--> Spinnee @ http://spinnee.blogspot.com
 
--> Qiaoyun @ http://www.sheylara.com/

--> Ah 9 @ http://9.liquidblade.com

--> Modernburrow @ http://modernburrow.lah.cc/

--> Starmist @ http://wishinguponashootingstar.blogspot.com/
 
--> duckhawk @ http://duckhawk.liquidblade.com

--> Heather @ http://mypaperjournal.blogspot.com/

--> RUOK @ http://www.vinceli.com/blog/

--> Averil Chan @ http://averilchan.blogspot.com

--> Jasmine @ http://jasochocolate.blogspot.com
 
--> Tomorrow.sg @ http://www.tomorrow.sg
 
--> My Other Blog @ http://redhalfofmanchester.blogspot.com

For those who are going down, my gratitude again. Do make it a point to say Hi to Chrissy. Tell her, I sent you. Tell her, her "nearly-brother-in-law" sent you. =)

Anyway, this is my last Chrissy entry before we approach the main event itself and I will like to show an email update pertaining to the marrow drive.


From: "Jolene Ong" <joleneong.jw@gmail.com>
Date: Tue, 31 Oct 2006 13:22:05 +0800
Subject: Updates - Gift of Life this Sunday!
Hi All,
Thank you for your support and well wishes for Chrissy.
Don't forget to come this Sunday, 5th November from 10am to 4pm to Aramsa - The Garden Spa at Bishan Park II, 1382 Ang Mo Kio Ave 1. Please take down my number in case you get lost : Jolene 9187 3888.
If you are worried about what they will do to you on Sunday, don't worry, it will only be a finger prick. A friend of mine, Kar Keat, has donated his bone marrow before, and he is coming over to share his experience with us ! He will be there from 11am to 1pm so if you are worried about what one has to do or go through for an actual bone marrow donation, please come during this time to ask him questions!
By the way, there is no obligation to sign up if you do not want to. Just come and learn more about Bone Marrow Donation, and we would have taken our cause one step further. Monetary donations are also welcome! There will be a charity box from the Bone Marrow Organisation there.
Lastly, Aramsa has very kindly offered us $30 discount vouchers for people interested to try out their treatments. A regular Aramsa Massage or a Swedish Massage costs $94.50 before discount, for a one hour treatment. So for $64.50, you get to experience their 'spa-in-a-park' concept. However, you are advised to book an appointment as soon as possible as slots are limited. Tel: 6456 6556 http://www.aramsaspas.com/
Chrissy and myself are really looking forward to seeing as many people as possible, so do try to reach out to all your friends and come on over to Bishan Park! Activities you can do there: Bring your family, have a picnic, have lunch at the restaurant, get a massage, Fishing, Roller Blading, Cycling and even Kite Flying!
See you all there, and please pass the word around even if you cannot come.
Cheers,
Jolene
Mobile: 9187 3888

Bus Services:133, 136, 169 and 262
Nearest MRT: Bishan and Ang Mo Kio

- Voxeros

1. spinnee left...
Friday, 3 November 2006 10:22 am
It costs nothing to bring warmth to a human's heart.
Hope the turnout will be good...


2. sunflower left...
Friday, 3 November 2006 2:21 pm
Jay, I am going down.


3. JayWalk left...
Friday, 3 November 2006 10:05 pm :: 
Spinnee: I hope so too. I too agree that sometimes the smallest gestures reaps the biggest reward. 

Sunflower: Ahh.... more people to go up to Chrissy and say the secret password "'Nearly bro-in-law' sent me". hahahaha.... It would be most amusing to have a bunch of people coming up to a bewildered Chrissy and saying the password. LOL.

02 November 2006

A Gift Of Life (Part 4) - Reply From Chrissy

Hi!

 Fri, Oct 27, 2006 at 9:55 AM

Hi Jay,


Great to hear from you! How have you been? Met <wife> and your really chubby son early this year at <bro-in-law>'s place. You must be a proud father.


Well sad to say the email on the internet is not a hoax. I was indeed diagnosed with leukemia 2 months ago. But I'm doing really well now after 2 rounds of 'torturing' chemo!! Am due for another round and bone marrow transplant end of next month.


Don't have to worry about me, I've been very positive about this since day one. Even my doctor was amazed at my respond when he 1st broke the news to me. I'm all ready to fight it, I love life too much to give it up!! Golf, food, alcohol ( although can't have it anymore) men!! ;-)


Good to hear that your friend is recovering and in good spirit, cheers me up to hear people in the same condition doing well. Pls send my best regards to him.

Pls come by next sunday to the bone marrow donor drive if you happened to be in town. Otherwise I hope to see you sometime somewhere soon :-)


Your almost (should have!!) sister-in-law,

Chrissy

P/S How you like my new hairstyle? ;-)

The positivity in her response totally floored me. To be honest, I was caught off guard as I was half expecting a forced-to-be-brave-but-half-hearted "fine, I am doing ok, I guess." Instead, I was greeted with an email bursting with sunshine.
 She is a real trooper, I tell you. The courage in the face of adversity humbles everyone in the vicinity. Myself included.
I was glad to find out that she has a marrow match from her brother. While members of the immediately family have a higher chance of a match, it is not an absolute given. Even a match coming from family is itself a small miracle, according to Chuan.
The marrow transplant is scheduled to take place at the end of November and I have every confidence that we are going to win this.
p.s. Again, I am asking everyone to go for the donor drive or at the very least plug this to spread the word around. The more the merrier, they say. Drop me a note when you have done so. Thank you.
Chrissy has received a gift of miracle and this donor drive is her way of saying thanks and forwarding the miracle to the next patient.
- Voxeros

1. spinnee left...
Thursday, 2 November 2006 10:18 am
Amazed by her positivism.
Had forwarded the email to my friends as well. will link this post soon.


2. JayWalk left...
Thursday, 2 November 2006 11:45 am ::
Spinnee: Thanks for chipping in. What I like about her attitude is rather then just sit there and wait patiently for someone to bail you out, why not just get up and do something about it? In the event if there is nothing you can do in the mean time, it is also great that you are getting up and do something else in the interim.

01 November 2006

A Gift Of Life (Part 3) - Letter To Chrissy

 My first instinct when I got the email was to write her one straight away. It's been quite a while since I last talked to each other and Ed's email was perhaps fate's subtle way of kicking me in the ass to take initiative to say "Hello."

I was quite hesitant initially when I drafted the email, thinking that perhaps the computer would be the last thing on her mind at the moment. Still, I couldn't think of any other way. It was early in the morning when I drafted it (7am when I eventually click the send button) and so calling her on the phone would be a really stupid thing to do.

Besides, would she have the time of day to take the call? What if I called at a bad time e.g. in the middle of treatment? Wouldn't that be annoying? Gee.... even I would feel annoyed with myself.

Man.... I think I think too much. I am going crazy.

p.s. Again, my appeal goes out to everyone who is reading this, to plug this Sunday's Donor Drive. Drop me a note to let me know that you have done so. I would like to add you to my list of people to thank on Friday.

Go for the event too, if you are able to.

My personal gratitude, in advance.

Long time no hear.

Fri, Oct 27, 2006 at 7:01 AM
Dear Chrissy,

How are you today?

There was an email regarding your leukemia condition circulating around the internet and I hope that this is not another hoax that has been so prevalent on the net these day.

On one hand, while it is pretty annoying to be getting emails of this nature, there is a part of me secretly hoping that it is indeed just another prank.

Anyway, assuming that it is for real, I am glad to know that you managed to find a bone marrow match. It looks to me that you managed to catch it at quite an early stage which means that your percentages of beating this is very high.

Coincidentally, I have a customer/friend who had the same condition as you just recently. He came over to China in August and was complaining about swelling feet and stuff. We initially thought it was just a case of gout since this Texan is all about beer and steak. When he returned to the US to see his doctor, he was diagnosed with leukemia. As usual, he went through the arduous ordeal of chemotherapy and I am happy to report that he has beaten it and is on the road to recovery as we speak.

I met him again just 2 weeks ago when I was in North Carolina and he was in very good spirits. The fact that he too was able to travel from San Antonio is testimony that he is doing A-OK. Despite losing his hair and a lot of weight, we are happy to see him back to his chatty self.

My point is that if Mlke N0rr1s can win this battle. So can you.

Take care.

Jay "Nearly Brother-in-law" Walk
- Voxeros

31 October 2006

A Gift Of Life (Part 2) - The Thing About The Email

 I have, over the years, received countless emails appealing for this and that. From blood donation of a certain blood type to adopt a puppy. So of these emails can be real heart-tuggers but given that there are so many hoaxes and pranks out there, one cannot but feel skeptical or worse, cynical about the whole deal.

Even if the email was genuine, I am more or less pretty much unmoved as I don't feel anything towards the subject, be it a person or a thing as it is far too remote for me.

That was until that morning when the following email reached my mailbox.

This one really hit home.

To my friends and all who are reading this here. I know it is a long shot to ask if you can answer to call for help as well as to help spread the word by plugging this. It is a lot to ask. Believe me, I know.

Isn't it ironic that I am making an appeal for help while all along I have always been the skeptical one?

Oh how God has a way of humbling the arrogant.
 
 ---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: "Jolene Ong" <joleneong.jw@gmail.com>
To: "Tan Chrissy" <chri22ytan@yahoo.com>
Date: Thu, 26 Oct 2006 15:45:44 +0800
Subject: A Gift of Life: 5th November 2006 (Sunday)
Dear Friends,

I was diagnosed with leukemia 2 months ago, and my girlfirend Jolene is helping me to organise a bone marrow drive. Thankfully, whilst we were organising this drive, my brother (and only sibling) was found to be a match. Nonetheless, we are still going ahead with the drive to help other patients in need.

I sincerely hope that you can come, as well as forward this email to as many friends as you know.

 Thanks in advance!

See you there.... :-)

Cheers,
Chrissy
HP: 98159789

---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Jolene Ong < joleneong.jw@gmail.com>
Date: Oct 25, 2006 10:16 PM
Subject: Fwd: A Gift of Life: 5th November 2006 (Sunday)
To: joleneong@kf.com.sg

Dear Friends,

A s some of you may know, my friend, 32 year old Chrissy Tan, was diagnosed with leukemia about 2 months ago.

A vibrant and energetic sports enthusiast with a real passion for life, her latest expedition just before the diagnosis, was to Mount Kinabalu. Sadly, she will have to put her life on hold for now as she takes on treatment for her illness. She has since undergone her second round of chemotherapy and will have to complete 2 more rounds of chemo in addition to radiation therapy to fight the cancer.

We are all certain that with her relentless spirit and will to survive, she will emerge victorious! However, to increase her odds against this great force merciless malady, a bone marrow transplant would be ideal.  

There are many other leukemia patients out there who also face the same battle. Leukemia is the most common form of childhood cancer. Many child leukemia sufferers die while waiting for a matching donor, never having a chance to live life to their full potential.

BUT - YOU CAN HELP! Help them to beat the odds by increasing the database of Bone Marrow Donors. The more people that are added onto the register will mean higher the chances of finding a match for these patients and giving them the most precious gift of all - A gift of life.

Registering yourself only requires a little prick on the finger for them to process your blood typing and IT'S FREE! To make it even easier for you to register, we are conducting a Bone Marrow Donor Drive .

DATE             : 5th November 2006 , SUNDAY

VENUE          : Aramsa - The Garden Spa Function Room
                         Bishan Park II, 1382
Ang Mo Kio Ave 1
 
TIME             : 10am - 4pm

As its name suggests, Aramsa - The Garden Spa is set in the beautiful, lush garden setting of Bishan Park . It is a very tranquil and peaceful place. You might even want to make bookings for a massage on that day to try out the facilities and enjoy a relaxing Sunday. http://www.asmaraspas.com/index1.htm  Tel: 6456 6556

So just click on the reply button and say YES you're coming! We just need to know the number of people to expect. Parking is in abundance just outside the spa. Nearest MRT stations are Ang Mo Kio and Bishan. Bus services that stop at Bishan Park are SBS 133, 136 and 232. Do call or send me an sms to confirm attendance at 9187 3888.

Please feel free to drop me an email or call me for any enquires!

Warmest Regards,
Jolene Ong
HP: 9187 3888

P/s: Please forward this to everyone you know. The more the merrier!


P/P/s: The bone marrow harvest is also not that scary - any healthy individual aged 17-50 years of age can do it! I'm the biggest scaredy cat in the world so if I put myself down for this, it should be easy peasy for the rest of you ;-)  Here is a link to some Frequently Asked Questions about bone marrow donation http://www.bmdp.org/how.php?q=3#7 , and also a short introduction on how bone marrow is harvested.

 SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: We are pleased to announce that in the midst of organising this drive to find a bone marrow donor for Chrissy, her only sibling was found to be a match to her. However, as there are still many, many other leukemia sufferers out there who have not found a match, we will continue to conduct this bone marrow drive to give more hope to these patients.


BONE MARROW HARVEST 
A bone marrow harvest takes place in a hospital operating room, usually under general anesthesia (i.e. unconscious).  It involves little risk and minimal discomfort. While the patient is under anesthesia, a needle is inserted into the cavity of the rear hip bone or "iliac crest" where a large quantity of bone marrow is located. The bone marrow a thick, red liquid - is extracted with a needle and syringe. Several skin punctures on each hip and multiple bone punctures are usually required to extract the requisite amount of bone marrow. There are no surgical incisions or stitches involved - only skin punctures where the needle was inserted. 

The amount of bone marrow harvested depends on the size of the patient and the concentration of bone marrow cells in the donor's blood. Usually one to two quarts of marrow and blood are harvested. While this may sound like a lot, it really only represents about 2% of a person's bone marrow, which the body replaces in four weeks. 

When the anesthesia wears off, the donor may feel some discomfort at the harvest site. The pain will be similar to that associated with a hard fall on the ice and can usually be controlled with painkillers. Donors are usually discharged after an overnight stay and can fully resume normal activities in a few days.
- Voxeros

1. lady jac left...
Tuesday, 31 October 2006 1:13 am :: http://www.miracleprincess.blogspot.com
a reminder of how fragile our lives are... take care!


2. JayWalk left...
Tuesday, 31 October 2006 8:36 am :: 
Lady Jac: Indeed we are. You got me thinking about death and this is what I feel. I don't think anyone is afraid of the Grim Reaper. It's the lack of preparation i.e. things we have not fulfill before we go that scares us.


3. sunflower left...
Tuesday, 31 October 2006 9:27 am
I also delete all these mails after I receive it.
I guess this is an alarm to everyone of us that we should at least read thru the content before we trash it just in case there is someone we know that might need our help or maybe we can help too!
Cheer up!


4. JayWalk left...
Tuesday, 31 October 2006 11:43 am :: 
Sunflower: It's a catch-22 situation as far as trying to filter the real ones from email spam.
I too, must admit that I am guilty of the skim-and-trash. I supposed I would have to fine tune this to at least pay attention to trusted sources from now on.

30 October 2006

A Gift Of Life (Part 1) - The Thing About Mortality


Perhaps, it was still the effect of jet lag when i got up at 3am in the morning, freshly awake. Come to think of it, it ain't all bad keeping that kind of hours as it is notably the most quiet and peaceful time of the day (or night for that matter). Things get done more effectively and efficiently. Nobody to disturb you. No phone calls to disrupt your train of thought.

So there I was in the still of the night checking my emails and there it was, an email from Ed. Ed almost never email me and straightaway, I knew it was important. It was an update on Chrissy.

Chrissy has leukemia.

My heart sank. As far as Chrissy is concerned, she is family. She was almost my sister-in-law had my toopid bro-in-law not broken up with her many years back. It's heartbreaking to see a relationship, blossomed since Poly days, fade into oblivion. Kids these days.... haiz....

I will dwell more into Chrissy tomorrow but let me tell you about the rest of my day.
Just as I was mulling over Chrissy's condition throughout the day, I received a cryptic message from Wing. Like Ed, Wing also never have the habit of keeping in touch regularly. Ironically, both Ed and Wing are my super duper good buddies.

"You know Lup Cheong? He died today."

Oh great. Second piece of bad new in one day.

It was afternoon before I had the chance to sit down in front of my computer when I buzzed Chuan on Yahoo Messenger to tell him about Lup Cheong. In return for that piece of update, I was rewarded with the news that Wei is battling with Stage 2 breast cancer back home.

It was almost like a surreal episode of the Twilight Zone where the main character will receive news of a death or tragedy whenever he speaks to somebody. For a fleet of a moment, I couldn't tell reality from fantasy. I wanted to just lock myself up for the rest of the day and not speak to anyone. It was too much for me to take in a single day.

- Voxeros

1. carbimazole left...
Monday, 30 October 2006 1:09 pm :: http://hiaoauntie.blogspot.com
sad....


2. JayWalk left...
Monday, 30 October 2006 1:50 pm :: 
Carbimazole: Indeed it is sad but I'll need you to follow me on this series this week. More development as we move into the week.
Stay tuned.


3. sunflower left...
Monday, 30 October 2006 1:51 pm
hug


4. JayWalk left...
Monday, 30 October 2006 4:27 pm ::
sunflower: Thanks, girl.


5. Gary left...
Monday, 30 October 2006 8:16 pm
so sorry to see that your beloved ones and friends are down with those illness.. hope you able to go through the tough week unscathed through God's mercy and peace..


6. carbimazole left...
Monday, 30 October 2006 10:33 pm :: http://hiaoauntie.blogspot.com
its times like these that you realli need to quietly sit down and ponder about life.... ultimately life is more than just bread and butter, what car u drive, whether u stay in HDB or condo... life is much much more than that.... if u noe wat i mean....


7. JayWalk left...
Monday, 30 October 2006 11:01 pm :
Gary: We may lost Lup Cheong but I think we still stand a good chance fighting the battle with Chrissy and Wei.

Check back here tomorrow for Chrissy's update.

Carbimazole: Nothing meant more to me than good friends and family. I believe I said "good food is nothing without good company" in an earlier entry and it meant exactly that.


8. v_icks left...
Monday, 30 October 2006 11:11 pm :: http://uwillnvknowme.blogspot.com
Ouch. I'm wishing all the best for Chrissy and Wei.. Will be checking back for updates on Chrissy.