Fizzle In The Drizzle Series (Part 5) - The Pageant Queen With The 25-Cent Face

1995 was the year I was with Rita but only briefly. I remembered the year clearly as it was the same year my grandpa passed away. She was a faculty pageant queen which means that she was quite the chiobu and a trophy girlfriend of sorts. It was easy getting to know her as we were in the same faculty, while at the same time had quite a few common tutorial classes together. I see her almost everyday as we also shared some assignments and projects together.

While I keep telling myself never to shit and eat in the same place, the caution of the cardinal rule was once again thrown to the winds (!). She was a very sweet and simple girl and we had a great time spending the school holidays together. The problem began to surface when school restarted and we started to prepare for the exams. We saw very little of each other as I spent quite a bit of time away in Taiwan when my grandpa was admitted into ICU and the outlook wasn't exactly very optimistic.

I was there for a couple of weeks before I returned to Singapore when my grandpa was showing signs of improvement. I couldn't spend a lot of time with her when I returned as I had a lot of school work to catch up.

Then just when I thought things were going back to normal, I received another call informing me that grandpa passed away. He was 93. That was really bad timing for me as I was very very close to the exams. Still, saying my farewell to grandpa was above everything else as I boarded the plane once again with my books and notes to Taiwan for the funeral.

Again, when I returned, I had even more backlog of lectures, tutorials, assignments as well as preparation for the exams to clear. I hardly had any time left for her.

As a result, she got upset and the amount of time (or rather the lack of) we spent together in school was being misinterpreted that I was trying to hide our relationship from the public eye. She wanted to tell the whole world about us but unfortunately I wasn't there to follow the script of things. She took it very negatively.

Then that's when the 25-cent face come liao. Face black black that made even the darkest piece of charcoal looked white. Unlike, the Fern, she was the silent sulker when she was unhappy. Right there and then, I knew the relationship was doomed.

In a way, I knew it was my fault that she was was being neglected and so I tried as best as I could, to endure all crap attitude thrown at me. Alas, a man's got his limits and I "resigned" when I reached breaching point.

- Voxeros

1. Sheena left...

Friday, 2 December 2005 2:49 am

What does 25 cent face mean?
Anyway... you're quite the Casanova aren't you... always getting the chiobus!

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Friday, 2 December 2005 7:18 am :: http://twiuc.blogspot.com

I like this series! And yes, JW bro, the pledge is transferable. Suggest a name can?

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Friday, 2 December 2005 8:50 am :: http://voxeros.blog-city.com

Sheena: 25-cent face ah? Let's see if Vandice the Chemical Beng can help me out on this.

Re: Always Getting The Chiobus

You are trying to set me up with this trick question, aren't you?


I am not going to fall for it and so I shall say "Yes! I am always getting the chiobus."


Acherly hor, two-way street lah... chiobus always get me... hahahahaha :P

Vandice: Ahh thanks. Glad you liked it. Transfer pledge to Adrian lor, after he is the one running right?

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Friday, 2 December 2005 10:27 am

i hate silent/cold-shoulder treatments...

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Friday, 2 December 2005 11:50 am :: http://www.razlan.name/blog

Hmm... interesting stuff (I have no idea what this series is for, but.. oh well!). Casanova, eh? Haha... put up a gallery of your girlfriend photos, as a track record of sort, will you? Haha... must be taken with you in the picture!

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Friday, 2 December 2005 12:04 pm :: http://wispsofstars.blogspot.com

I think girls don't like to be neglected. But she should have been more understanding la.

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Friday, 2 December 2005 3:59 pm ::

Akk: ......
:P

Raz: The Series concept is like a theme for the week where I spread the stories out over a few days.

Essentially, it's just me recollecting my past and putting down in words in case I forget them when I become old. Feel free to browse through my Lorbert, School Boy and Tuition series. Just key in those keyword into the Search engine, located on the right side bar and it will pull up the respective archives. Enjoy.

As for photos of girlfriends? Cannot lah... too many. Sekali wife upset, how? :P

kIm: Don't say girls lah, guys also don't like to be neglected but like you said, have to be understanding mah. Sometimes we have our hands tied and really bor pian.

So under that circumstances and girlfriend still give you the crap attitude, how not to feel damn du-lan?

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. hitomi left...

Friday, 2 December 2005 6:32 pm

If she's the one from my JC... Wah, really chio leh... *salivating*

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Friday, 2 December 2005 9:29 pm ::

hitomi: OMFG!!! How the hell did you guess??!! Oh shit..... get on Yahoo! I need to talk to you!! Now!!!

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Friday, 2 December 2005 11:06 pm

i also hate being neglected
it's like being "mind-fucked"
haiz

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Saturday, 3 December 2005 7:19 am :: 

Vanna: True lah. Nobody likes to be neglected but under those circumstances, must cut the guy some slack right?

If not happy can talk about it right? No need to give 25-cent face right?

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Saturday, 3 December 2005 10:10 am

but of cos
at least u tried to make effort
one word - communication
:)

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Saturday, 3 December 2005 11:41 am :: 

Vanna: Believe me, I tried. But she miscontrued it as me trying take the easy way out of the relationship by acting blur as if the relationship never existed in the first place. Haiz.....

Too tiring man....

Fizzle In The Drizzle Series (Part 4) - The Law Student with the 320SL

Maddie was a law student when I was an undergrad cum part-time roadie for an events company, that was engaged by her faculty for an evening ball function. She was on the organising committee and hence we have quite a bit of contact in the preparation leading up to the ball itself. The thing about these events is that when you are the event's coordinator, your chances of being inside and enjoying the party is shot. You don't have a chance to sit down. You are essentially the sacrificial workhorse as you find yourself working and coordinating from beginning to end. Ironically, even when there is a seat reserved specially for you, the seat would be empty throughout the night.

Being a roadie means that I am busying only during setting up and closing shop times. Everything in between is left to the big kahunas (e.g. Hamish Brown, Florence Lian, Moe Alkaff, Gurmit Singh, Victor Khoo, Bernard Lim etc..) to execute the programme and its just idle time for me to sit back and watch the events unfold, less of course, there is a technical emergency that requires me to rectify before anyone realises something was amiss.

So there she was, stealing a breather behind the stage bumming a drink from my glass. Her calves were sore from wearing heels the whole day. I offered for her to prop her feet onto my lap and I gave her a once-thru. Let's just say that I had magic fingers.

She kinda figured out where and how to locate me subsequently (read my 3-Day Week section in my previous entry) and we saw more and more of each other despite the fact we didn't have each other's numbers until much later. Before anyone starts exclaiming "STALKER!", let's just say that there was always a smile on my face when she showed up. I liked her.

So it wasn't before long after that we hooked up and we got to know each other and each other's background deeper. For those who know me, I come from a pretty comfortable background and this bit of information is crucial at this point in time when I say she was way out of my league. At first, I tried to ignore the gap in between our backgrounds but the cracks at the hull was slowly showing under the strain.

I remembered when I was an intern in a bank later that year. She rang me on my mobile one morning and said she was taking me out to lunch. So at the appointed time, I went downstairs to the lobby and my jaw dropped. There she was in her dad's 320SL in full glory, parked right in front of the bank. Now the shittybank of which I was an intern had a viciously horrible gossip grapevine that passes information faster that the speed of electrons and the last thing I needed was to be the latest topic of discussion.

"What da heow?!!" As I ran for the car almost diving in through the window, trying to avoid being identified. After lunch, I had to make some lame excuse about needing to buy some stuff from the Old Lau Pa Sat and hence needed her to drop me a distance away from the bank. You would have guessed that I only wanted her to drop me off far enough so that nobody saw me. Now many would be saying that I shouldn't let this sort of thing get to me but alas, I was young and stupid then. We all have 20-20 hindsight vision, don't we?

Anyway, even if I didn't let that get to my head, it wouldn't have lasted anyway. We were just too far apart in terms of backgrounds and interests. We don't have enough common ground except perhaps that we both love to party and my house was always a hurricane wreck every morning after.

- Voxeros

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 10:35 am

hot stuff right??
hurhurhur
:P

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 10:37 am ::

Vanna: Absolutely sizzling!!

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 2:51 pm

the way u meet girls.....
massage? prop feet on lap? wah lau....
I need to get out more...hehehehe...

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 7:12 pm

I've heard this story before, haven't I?

Ahhh... the difference between guys and girls... girls WANT their boyfriends to pick them up and drive them around in SLKs.

BTW I've a new post up on Red Half of Manchester, on last night's Carling Cup match vs West Brom. Why am I like the only one updating it? I've got to get to Lun and make him contribute...

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 9:29 pm

So what did you guys do to cause the house to become a hurricane wreck every morning after huh????? ;P

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 9:38 pm

Lynne, this kind of thing cannot ask...:) hehe...

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 9:59 pm :: 

Akk: What d'ya mean by "the way I meet girls" har?

Why? You also want massage is it?

小姐要不要 SPECIAL ? Wahahahaha.....

Sheena: Told you the story? Maybe, maybe not.
Read the update on RedHalf. I didn't cover the Carling Cup coz Mickey Mouse Cup lah... I do only EPL and ECL (and if I good mood then FA Cup also lah).

Lynne: Wouldn't you WANT to know? *raised eyebrow*

Pam: Well said. If you need to ask, you probably should stay ignorant about it. Heh heh...

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Friday, 2 December 2005 8:26 pm

You could have been super filthy rich.. with the alimony.. haha.. too bad

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Friday, 2 December 2005 9:41 pm :: 

Jaschocolate: I won't say that money is not important and having some is a good bonus. However, there are other things that are just as important if not, more.

Alimony would have been a nightmare for me as it is always the char bor who would be at the receiving end. Given that she was rich to begin with, my alimony would have been a huge number since I have to maintain her current standard of living.

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Tuesday, 6 December 2005 10:44 am :: http://nadnut.liquidblade.com

how come i dont get to meet men like ur girls? bah. rich ones or will mop my floors!

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Tuesday, 6 December 2005 11:39 am ::

Nadnut: You neber come out often enough mah....

I got introduce this Porsche-driving Ah Siah Kia to Sheena before but alas, SOMEBODY taste too atas liao. Say people ugly. Wah raoz ... how hurtful can one get???

Fizzle In The Drizzle Series (Part 3) - The Classmate With The Mop

The thing about Singapore school culture is very much dependent on that invisible cookie cutter where conformity is the key to climbing the school's social ladder. Everybody has got a certain profile bestowed onto him/her by the school's social community. You don't get to choose to be a jock or a nerd or a freak. It is given to you by the invisible sorting hat like in Harry Potter.

The year was 1993 and I was in NTU. Here's my profile or so I was told by a friend:

1) Repeat Student.
I flunked my first year and had to repeat it again. So by default, I am classified as a paikai. While I am aware of the effect of the paikia thing has on the ladies, what I will never figure out is why?

2) Car.
Ok, so I've got one of the 5Cs covered.

3) Tennis Player.
The defacto attire for male students in NTU is bland at best. Polo-Tee, jeans and deck shoes. Not me. I am always in my tennis garb. Even the class photo in my yearbook showed me in it as I was due to play shortly after the photoshoot. I played a lot of tennis then and so what you would see is a sloppy-joe that waltzed in and out of class every Monday to Wednesday with tan lines on the ankles and left wrist (my watch) like a human zebra.

4) Three-Day Week.
Speaking of Mondays to Wednesdays, my lecture and tutorial schedules, as a result of intricate planning, were squeezed into Mondays, Tuesdays and Wednesdays. Thereafter, you will find me at Mambo on Wednesday nights, Chaplins on Thursday nights, Zanzibar/Chinoiserie on Friday nights and Hard Rock Cafe on Saturday nights.

Like I said, party animal.

5) I Sit Front and Center.
I think the fatal stab into a lady's heart would be a paikia trying to turn over a new leaf. I was not without regrets when I flunked my freshmen year. I was determined to make good my mistake and chose to sit front and center during lectures and give my fullest concentration. Don't let all the partying fooled you. I partied hard and I worked hard too.

So to sum up in one sentence. I was a sporty-party.animal-paikai-sloppy.joe with a nice set of wheels who studied just as hard in his determination to turn over a new leaf and be a better man.

In one word (and Pam can attest to that), I was "dangerous".

Anyway, Kheng (Pam: Not your "HKheng".), was my classmate in my repeat year and I was grouped with her, together with a couple other classmates, as the tutorial class split further into smaller discussion groups. Tutorial discussions were often held in my hostel block as the rest of the group didn't have campus accommodations. She was a nice girl and I enjoyed her company. Before you know it, she became a frequent visitor to my room even when there was no tutorial meetings. She just liked to hang around and chill, which to me was a welcoming break from the monotony of all the studying in the room. While I was constantly telling myself never to eat and shit in the same place. The caution was thrown to the wind. If the episode with Fern was a sprint, then this certainly was a leisurely stroll. Nothing happened between us or rather, we didn't make it as far.

We were just starting off (we hadn't even held hands yet) and you wouldn't believed what happened shortly after. Then came one morning where I was awakened by sounds of shuffling. It took a while to get out of my sleepiness and...

WHOA!!!! WHAT DA HEOW!??!!

There she was mopping the floor of my hostel room and cleaning the desk. Man, she was even going to do my laundry! Words couldn't begin to describe how freaked out I was. Granted that she was just being sweet but WHOA! DIABETIC ALERT!!! It was too much for me to take in one single bite and our relationship (if you could even call it one) grounded to an instant halt.

She was naturally upset when I said I didn't want to take this further. Can't blame her for hating me with all the scorns of hell's fury but do I really want a classmate classmaid?

- Voxeros

1. Pam left...

Wednesday, 30 November 2005 12:14 am

eh, I can't attest to you being 'dangerous' lah... I can only attest to the fact that other people 'warn' me that you are 'dangerous'! :) different ok?! :)

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 9:05 am :: 

Pam: Ah... thank you for the vote of confidence.
Damn you Kelly!!! Damn you!! May a thousand leeches latched on to thy serpent tongue and forever never to falsely speak ill of anyone again!!
Ahh... I feel so much better now. :P

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 11:41 am :: http://wispsofstars.blogspot.com

WAH!
Ok, I now know what to do: Never appear too erm, motherly or sweet, or guys will run from me like they are escaping from wasps.

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 1:02 pm

this series will teach me not to be nice to guys
hahaha
so i will attract them instead by being EVURL
LOL

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 1:11 pm :: 

kIm: Think about it look. Would you feel good if your guy love you like you are his mother?
'Nuff said.

Vanna: Er... aren't you already EVURL to begin with? *run for the hills* :P

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 3:38 pm

You must be a looker.

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 4:04 pm :: 

Zhe Bin: Yah.. how you know har? I always look here look there one. kekekekek....

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 5:43 pm

good to get it out of your system m'dear... afterall, it will all 'come back' to you in oh... 2 weeks? :)

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 6:26 pm ::

Pam: Yah man.... I can't wait to see her again. Hur hur hur.....

MeePok: You will finally get to meet Kelly Wannabe too!

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 8:40 pm

i've said it before and i'll say it again - you and I are opposites...

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 9:36 pm ::

ahdokboy: You speak too soon my friend, for you are merely still walking on the path that I have trodden.
Mark my words... *evil laughter*

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 9:41 pm

Wah, what you feed her to make her mop your floor ah? Can I have some of that magic potion?

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 9:46 pm

Ppl is hinting to u that she want to be your "jia ding zhu fu" loh and u break her heart.. Big boy..

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 9:55 pm :: 

Lynne: Don't have lah! Don't anyhow say me leh. I didn't do anything. Honest!
She just showed up one morning and back in the hostel days, we don't lock our doors one....

I wake up already blur blur, I saw her already, I lagi blur.

Jaschocolate: But I don't want a "jia ting zhu fu" leh. So how?
p.s. Big Boy??

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 10:17 pm

since when i evurl???
hurhurhur
i always too sweet that's y guys will run away.. LOL

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 10:19 pm :: 

Vanna: You too sweet? Sure or not? Want to come mop my floor to prove it? :P

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 10:32 am

sweet doesn't equals to mopping the floor
:P

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 10:35 am :

Vanna: Er.... not mopping floor har? Wash my car? Oh wait... I don't have a car... dang!

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 2:47 pm

how come no one said anything against the girl ah? I read the entry and it's very clear to me that somebody is acting damn scary leh....as for jay, I salute ur decision to take no prisoners...

say no immediately and everyone happy... even if that girl cant see it at that point.
It's guys who think twice and cant decide that truly makes the girls suffer. Give me someone who knows what he wants (and doesn't) anytime.

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 6:04 pm ::

Akk: Take no prisoners means "宁可杀错， 不可放过" leh....
But I know what you mean lah...
I just needed to clarify it here, lest people start misunderstanding then I jialat liao.

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Friday, 2 December 2005 9:28 am

wah lau...i knew you were going to comment on that phrase one...I couldn't find a better one actually...but i admit it's misleading, heeheheh...

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Friday, 2 December 2005 9:38 am :: 

Akk: I think it is merely a play of words here.

Probably a case of "Take No Prisoners" vs "No Prisoners".

Fizzle In The Drizzle Series (Part 2) - The Teacher With The Halo

I was the Vice-Chair for the Students' Union Orientation Camp that year when I met Carmen. She was from NIE, which technically was part of NTU, despite their campus all the way away in Bukit Timah. So when it comes to activities on a University-wide scale, we would invite them to come join us as counselors. Carmen was one of the 6 counselors that signed up and it was hard for them to fit in initially since they hardly know anyone in the Jalan Bahar campus.

I guessed, as host, I had to make sure everybody feels welcomed and comfortable and so I took it upon myself to . The camp is further split into 6 main groups which means 1 NIE counselor per group. As luck of the draw would have it, she was assigned to Jill's group. I, being in the main committee, was not affiliated to any group initially until Jill had a minor "breakdown", just days before the camp started, resulting in me having to take over her group.

Carmen was certainly glad to see another familiar face in the group as the NTU-side counselors were already a clique to begin with. She stayed close to me throughout the camp as she was a tad on the shy side when it comes to making new friends. She was within sight whenever my main committee obligations did not take me away from the group. That translated into lot of time hanging out and chit chatting. She may be quite shy but once she gets to know you better, she can be very chatty.

The more we talked, the more I got to knew and it was quite shocking for me to learn of such a girl, at the age of 20, to be so innocent. Words cannot describe to you how innocent she was but the camp being her first ever extended stay away from home can give you a pretty good picture there. No prizes for guessing that she never had a boyfriend before and I would be an idiot not to spot that she was looking for one from a mile away.

For those who knew me, I shun fresh recruits in the battlefield of dating/relationships. She was quite the chiobu but something about newbies, just turned me off my radar. Either that or being the first ever bloke to be her first ever boyfriend was too much pressure to bear. I am no Neil Armstrong nor do I have the makings of one. Besides, I had a girlfriend then and she too was in that very same group. I could hear the cat hissing behind my ears. *shudder*

Problem is that the situation from her angle looked totally different. I was getting more and more appealing to her by the day. Like the stock prices in the early 1990s hey-day, my "market value" was riding the bull-run.

Nothing happened between us as I chose to act blur on all the hints and signals that she dropped. However, in a warped sense, my "steadfast faithfulness" to my then girlfriend, drove her lagi nuts over me. If my "market value" was real money, I could have started my retirement even before graduation. Oh well....

So the camp was over and we kept in touch over the phone and emails but had to say no whenever she asked me out. Eventually, the frequency dwindled as time dragged on and we soon lost touch with each other, which I think was for the better for both parties.

Even if I was single and available then, still nothing would have happened for she was just way too innocent for me to tahan.

- Voxeros

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Tuesday, 29 November 2005 1:14 am

jay jay jay... never did i think that 'innocence' could ever be a 'negative'!! :) *shake head in despair-cum-wonder*

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Tuesday, 29 November 2005 10:14 am

erm..
i hope my innocence doesn't turn guys away.. muahahaha
weird sense of logic leh.. hahahaha.. i tot guys love gals being innocent
:P

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Tuesday, 29 November 2005 11:14 am :: http://wispsofstars.blogspot.com

huh? That's that first time I ever heard that guys don't like innocent girls. I thought they always like innocent shu nu type? Haha..

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Tuesday, 29 November 2005 12:34 pm ::

Pam, Vanna & kIm: All of you are guilty of stereotyping guys. Sigh....
Then again, could I be the one who is actually wrong given that it is 3 against 1?

Actually, the logic is simple. Innocent girls means the guy have to teach everything from scratch. Very tiring one. Seriously, where got time? By the time she "gets it", the mood is gone and you sian half already.

Besides, isn't the "non-innocent" pool a bigger ocean to fish?

Let's do a count. Hands up to those who think they are innocent.

But remember: Liar, liar, pants on fire.

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Tuesday, 29 November 2005 2:44 pm

Hey, I feel that if she can try to hook you when she knew you had a girlfriend, she wasn't that innocent after all!

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Tuesday, 29 November 2005 3:58 pm ::

Pam: So now you know why I regard you positively?

Vanna: Well, I doubt if you are scaring any of the guys away. From what I heard you have been trying frantically to shoo quite a number of potential suitors away of late.
Based solely, on that, I think you are failing miserable in the innocence department also. :P

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Tuesday, 29 November 2005 4:00 pm :

Sheena: She was sooo innocent that she wasn't familiar with the "Rules of The Game" under the sub-section of "Offenses - Potong Jalan".

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Tuesday, 29 November 2005 5:34 pm

Jay... it's too early in the morning... so, was that a 'compliment'??! :) hmph..

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Tuesday, 29 November 2005 6:02 pm

jay - you are so in trouble dude...:)

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Tuesday, 29 November 2005 7:21 pm

Jay Daddy, you can wait till the apple is ripe for picking mah.. :p

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Tuesday, 29 November 2005 9:07 pm :: 

Pam: What? What?!

Jaschocolate: Don't you mean till the *cough* cherry *cough* is ripe for picking? *cough cough*

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Tuesday, 29 November 2005 9:28 pm

u can say that also.. *bish*

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Tuesday, 29 November 2005 11:32 pm

*coughs coughs*
since when i have been chasing my suitors away?? how come i didn't even know tat?
hurhurhur
:P

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 9:09 am :: 

Jaschocolate: Hmm... the person who cracked the joke about a certain cherry picker in NUS hasn't showed up her yet with a comment...

Where art thou? Show thyself!! Out!

Vanna: Don't have meh? Hmm... let me go check my "source" again....

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 1:01 pm

who is ur "source"
give u wrong info
hurhurhur
:P

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 1:08 pm :: 

Vanna: Cannot reveal lah.. or else my agents will be compromised.
Secret secret. Shh.....

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 3:23 pm

I kinda know how you felt. And may I say being the only other guy than you to leave a comment I am v.stressed! Haha.

But for me, innocent girls are far too fragile. And by fragile I mean 'can be broken easily'. It's like, they tend to belong to the extremes - a lot of attention and pacifying vs totally unresponsive. More often than not, some of these friends I have have fairytale-like expectations from a relationship. Just not practical at all.

I'd have chosen a more independent and realistically practical lady. At least she's clear what she wants. = )

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 3:31 pm :: 

Zhe Bin: YES! A guy to speak up finally!!
I TOTALLY understand what you are saying. Truth of the matter is that in order for a lady to be more independent and realistically practical, she would have gone through a few frogs before finding the prince in you.

And so, innocent girls do not fall into this category.

p.s. Bladdy mihuatang chicken out on me here. Normally a lot of comments one.... NB.... :P

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 9:36 pm

Hahaha. I think he missed this one lah. And ya lor, every girls have been at least once an innocent thing.. Maybe until we came along ba. Muahaha. But of cos like I said, I'd rather not be the one. Hee.
Anyway what is mht's brog ah?

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 9:50 pm :: 

Zhe Bin: You are absolutely right in the sense that all girls were innocent once.
The fact that we leave these angels alone proves that we are indeed GOOD GUYS.
Tio bor?

On another note, MHT don't have a blog. Or at least I am not aware of one.

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 10:15 pm

but being innocent doesn't not mean that the gal will not have realistic expectations.
every gal would want attention & care from their guys. who doesn't wants it?
but on another note, r u guys meeting the wrong type of gals who r the needy & also innocent types? muahahahahaha
there are many types of innocence leh :P

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 12:30 am ::

Vanna: Let's not mix innocence up with needy.
This blog entry here centers around being overly innocent while the earlier one with Fern is about being overly needy.

I think we need to discuss each separately.

Can you further elaborate on "realistic expectations"?

What are the difference types of innocence, pray tell?

23. vanna left...

Thursday, 1 December 2005 10:33 am

we discuss this on msn
muahahaha
now brain dead.. can't think well
:P

24. akk left...

Thursday, 1 December 2005 2:39 pm

a very good debate going on here. Let me just add that a cherry-picker is a bloody machine, not a person, however much some women may like to meet such men and some men may like (or not) to be labeled as such. 'Bloody'...hur hur....

OTOH, you don't need the cherry to be picked in order to be less innocent and to pick the cherry and eat it in order to be bad.

Everything is relative. Fairy-tale expectations isn't really a measure of innocence, more like naivete. And being fragile isn't innocence either, more like character and personality and watching too many 'qiong yao' shows= naivete again.

Innocence, I think, is actually being unable to even see and tell the difference in gender....like close guy/gal frens when we're little kids.

the OUT! person has spoken...my 2 cents worth lah....don't comprain..... heheheh..:)

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 5:48 pm :: 

Vanna: Either that or we can take this discussion over to the next Secret Agent Meeting (SAM). ;)

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 5:55 pm

i think you need to explain what you mean by 'realistic expectations'. what is realistic may be unrealistic to the other party - and that's what most friends/couples find out eventually, regardless of how well they get on. one might think '1x call a day' is realistic. others may think speaking a few times a day is realistic. etcetc.

i agree with the person who said that fairy-tale expectations = naivete. hence the reason why jay steered clear of these people he's blogging about! :) he can be quite clever sometimes. haha.

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 5:57 pm :: 

Akk: Well said there but I have to make a minor tweak there.


Granted that you don't need to have your cherry picked in order to be innocent, there is however, no such thing as being innocent if your cherry has already been picked. Nobody said anything about being bad. That's judging other people already which I think we should steer clear of that.

In all, I think you've made an excellent point on the difference of being innocent and being naive.

*thumbs up*

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Thursday, 1 December 2005 6:16 pm :: 

Pam: So many chiobus, so little time!!! which is why I steer clear of "these people", they take up too much time!! :P
So now you know. :P

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Friday, 2 December 2005 9:37 am

Jay, 'Bad' meaning the multitude of naive gals who think that the guy who picks the cherry but leaves in the end is the 'Paikia' who deserves the label. And also to your own labeling of 'pai-kia' in your prelude.

Meaning that 'bad', like 'dangerous' is also relative and mostly a term that naive/unknowing ppl tend to use. Again meaning that ur 'pai-kia' label is actually superlative also lah.

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Friday, 2 December 2005 10:09 am :

Akk: Err... so "Bad" is actually not that bad?

Pam: Eh Pam, in accordance to Akk's definition, Kelly is considered naive/ignorant leh.
What do you have to say about that?

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Friday, 2 December 2005 4:27 pm

i think you have to realise that naivete at say early 20s is quite clearly different from naivete at say, OUR AGE! at our age, naivete is probably quite non-existent, unless said-person's not had a relationship before, which in this particular situation, is not true. so i would revise that and say that said-person isn't naive/innocent, more like having ridiculous expectations. it's too early in the morning to make sense - hope that made some! :)

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Friday, 2 December 2005 4:45 pm ::

Pam: I doubt if there is the so-called "naive person" at YOUR AGE*.

If really zhun zhun got such a person, I really wondered how sheltered her life must have been growing up.

Anyway, I don't think you need to revise anything you said earlier. Anyone who has "ridiculous expectation" would have been naive to begin with. No?

* What OUR AGE?? I still young ok?!! :P

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Friday, 2 December 2005 6:36 pm

biological age dude, biological. :)

actually there are such people about - well, not necc at this age but say late 20s, who for whatever reason never had a relationship. hence can be quite innocent/naive.

i think the ridiculous expectations can come about as a result of bad tv dramas, media exposure (cosmopolitan mags etc), and what they perceive as their 'rights'. e.g. i am such and such, therefore i have the right to expect this and that. certain careers also seem to impose certain expectations, don't you think?

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Friday, 2 December 2005 9:33 pm ::

Pam: Er... reading between the lines, are you talking about a certain person whom I also happen to know?

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Friday, 2 December 2005 9:53 pm

dude - i think we've always been talking about a certain person. if it's not that certain person, then i don't think i know who you talking about - unless you want to enlighten me! :)

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Friday, 2 December 2005 10:45 pm :: 

Pam: Ok lah... it's that Kelly lah... but I just thought maybe, just maybe, there could be somebody else?

Fizzle In The Drizzle Series (Part 1) - The Nurse With The Wardrobe

Fern was a nurse in a local gahmen hospital when I was in the NS. We met on a group date at Singapore Indoor Stadium where there was this International Ballroom Dancing competition going on. If you had followed the story in my School Boy series, you would have realised that the meeting was purely by chance. It was a case of she was there and I was there. I liked what I saw, I asked for her number and we went out on a date again.

While relationships may take some time to come to fruition, we were there in one single leap. We were together even before the first official date was over. I guessed that's the thing about being young and hot-blooded as we took the world by storm.

She came from a very conservative family where at the age of 18, she still had a curfew imposed upon her. The father was a strict man who still think her little girl was too young to start dating. This made everything lagi exciting as we had to keep everything hush hush.

It was an adventurous period for me as we were playing cat-and-mouse, cloak-and-dagger. There was even this one time I have to resort to hiding in her wardrobe when the folks came home unexpectedly. Friends in my inner circle would also know the "other" story with her braces. For those who wants to know hear about it, two conditions must be met. 1) I will need to tell you in person and 2) I will need to be pretty buzzed when I tell you the story.

Coming back, it was a time before mobile phones and the numeric pager was as advanced as a guy can get as far as staying contactable is concerned. The best part of a relationship is always the honeymoon period but it's all downhill from there. The honeymoon period is akin to the proverbial "beer googles" where everything and anything is all sweet and dandy at that time. When the dust settled and the euphoria dissipated, the ugly monster in her started to rear its ugly head.

The thing about being in NS is that you do not have free access to the telephone as and when you please, which means that it may be sometime before a bloke is able to return a page. A concept that was sadly lost on her.

Man, was she persistent in the paging department as my pager beeped and beeped and beeped non-stop. I even had to cook up some stupid excuse in order to sneak to the public pay-phone to return her page. Just when you though the furious paging was for something urgent, she "just wanted to hear my voice". *facepalm*

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

After a few subsequent cry-wolf occurrences, I turned to taking my time to answer her page and boy did it really upset her. Every page that I returned thereafter ended up in a shouting match which left both parties upset. And no, there was no make-up sex. It would have been fantastic though, but no.

Anyway, this went on for a few more weeks until I reached breaking point and I dumped her.

I bought the Motorola Bravo Plus pager shortly after. It had a silent vibrating mode. The earlier NEC model only has loud and fire alarm mode.

- Voxeros

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Monday, 21 November 2005 10:49 am

haiz...youngsters...
Did the episode leave a bitter taste in ur mouth after that?

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Monday, 21 November 2005 10:56 am :: 

Akk: Whose mouth? Er.... don't answer that!
No lah, no bitter taste for after all, we all have our own quirks here and there. That's just her I supposed.
Just not my type lor. Too clingy.

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Monday, 21 November 2005 2:04 pm :: http://headscratch.motime.com

i like your analogy between honeymoon period and beer goggles. very true.

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Monday, 21 November 2005 2:13 pm :: http://nadnut.liquidblade.com

hmmm. we all have to meet a few wrong ones before meeting the right one. =)
wassup with the braces man? lol

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Monday, 28 November 2005 1:08 pm

abit scary leh
maybe she loves u tooooo much
:p

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Monday, 28 November 2005 1:23 pm

milktea: Heh heh... you also speaking from experience har?

Nadnut: You will need to get me drunk then I will tell you the story. R(A) rated. You old enough to handle it or not?

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Monday, 28 November 2005 1:25 pm ::

Vanna: Not scary lah... just damn " 烦 " lor.

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Monday, 28 November 2005 1:37 pm

Hahahahaha... I think all girls of 18 are like that lah. I was like that too with my bf before Andy. Luckily the guy was a clerk in NS and could call me often. And same thing - if he didn't call me, I blew up!

Anyway you only hid in a cupboard once? There was a period of time when the cupboard was Andy's second home. He was in it everyday. His personal record is being in there for 4 hours. He's done everything man: hiding under my bed, behind my door, climbing in and out through my study room window...

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Monday, 28 November 2005 1:43 pm ::

Sheena: Wah.. this Andy lagi champion siah... you MUST blog about this!!!

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Monday, 28 November 2005 3:03 pm

Haha... Oh yeah, and my mum caught him nude in my room before. Twice, too. Dunno if she saw anything though. A few times she did catch him in my cupboard. Ahhhhh... those were the days.

I can't blog about it lah, Andy would flip. Then he'd say I'm making him lose face on my blog. He's got a huge ego you know!

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Monday, 28 November 2005 4:00 pm ::

Sheena: Hmm... reminded me of a friend who caught her mom's bf in the cupboard.
I think that would be lagi traumatic for her man.... at least your Andy is not wrinkled and pruned in the cupboard!

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 2:58 pm

Haha in my warped mind hor, only 2 things can happen with her braces lah. I think I keep to myself = X
Were you her first bf? That's why she's more 'niam'.

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Wednesday, 30 November 2005 3:28 pm ::

Zhe Bin: I got a strange feeling that you would probably get it right on the first guess. But don't try!!!!!

~LOL

As for the question if I was her first BF? I have no bladdy idea. Didn't ask.

Fizzle In The Drizzle Series - A Prelude

For those who have been following my series, Good News. I shall be back with a new one this week. As you know, I wrote about my crash-and-burns in my Lorbert Series and obviously the idea of writing about the crash-and-burns at the other end came up naturally. I have had this idea for the longest time already but hesitated as it would mean painting a less-than-flattering picture of the other party. Something that I am not used to but still I believe an even-up of the score is in order, lest people start portraying me as the perpetual victim here.

I can frankly say that I am no Saint and I deserved just as many "f*cking bastard" labels as I have "poor guy" ones.

You know, writing about my tragedies is easy as I have learned to laugh at myself. However, I am not sure if the other party share the same candidness when I write about them.

Problem is, writing about somebody else's tragedy is akin to laughing AT the person which I am a bit uncomfortable.

Should I proceed or should I just scrap this Series entirely? A lot of you (you know who you are!) have been bugging me to do this Series (you all damn kaypoh leh!) and I've decided to go ahead but not without this prelude.

This prelude serves as a "Last Chance" station to stop me. If for any reason (that is valid), I should not go ahead with this Series, speak now before I release my Pilot episode at midnight Monday, 21 November 2005 (GMT +8).

EDIT: The Series was originally slated to run from 20 to 25 Nov 2005 (inclusive of this prelude). However, an email from Adrian Lee, later on the morning of 21 Nov 2005, reminded me of his RunForFunds Day on 04 Dec 2005. I want to help spread the word about this project which I personally felt was a very worthy and meaningful cause. Putting it up after my Series will not do it justice for it would be cutting to close to the Marathon Day.

- Voxeros

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Sunday, 20 November 2005 12:20 pm

who is bugging you too ??
LOL
it's not laffing at people but just looking to the past & reflecting back on memories
:P

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Sunday, 20 November 2005 12:25 pm

Ya lor memories akin to yourself mah, so not exactly laughing (men are v.good at keng-ing). Anyway is your past experience so hard to put a balance between saving some grace for the other party and bringing out the most of of it? But of course a v.v.v.large part of me wants to listen/read stories ah. I like your series muahaha.

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Monday, 21 November 2005 2:40 am ::

Vanna: Who ah? Just need to look around the dinner table can liao.

Zhe Bin: Ok lah... man... I feel like the old bloke sitting under the banyan tree with a fan in his fan telling stories over a pot of tea. sigh....

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Monday, 21 November 2005 10:47 am

Bring it on.....:)

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Monday, 21 November 2005 10:52 am :: 

akk: Today is Monday liao. Enjoy the first installment.

Important Announcement

This is an important announcement.

I need to interrupt the Fizzle With The Drizzle Series and postpone it to next week.

Watch this space tomorrow.

- Voxeros