30 June 2009

May 2008 - Gabe Update

Ok, so this entry is way overdue considering the fact that I was back in Singapore at the end of May. Gabe is growing pretty well and is quite a tall boy for his age (3 years old).

Our only concern as usual was his attention span and focus. He is still the silent spaced-out man.
Everything else is ok. He likes art and drawing although we have no idea when he's drawing (he wouldn't tell us either). Maybe one day, he will also be drawing frowers to sian all the xmms. Who knows?

What what really impressed me was his motor skills as we see him running and climbing all over the house and be in precarious positions that would have made your heart stopped. Yeah. Now multiply that by several times in a minute..

At home, we also happened to have a Ikea PS LOMSK chair (see right) for the kids which was Gabe's current favourite toy. The thing about this chair is that it swivels and Gabe loved to spin himself on the egg chair.

The chair is located need to the wall so as to get it out of the way of adult traffic and Gabe would stand on it with both feet and using the adjacent wall as leverage to push and spinning himself very quickly.

Aiyoh, I was so scared during the initial first few encounters as I thought he was sure to fall flat on this face having been thrown out by the spin and not to mention the giddiness from the spinning. But no, Gabe's feet were planted like as if it was super-glued to the chair.

Looks like a certain body part of me shrank back in the body in vain, each and every time. =(


Oh well, let's hope Gabe starts to speak soon.

- Voxeros

1. Linny. left...
Monday, 30 June 2008 8:06 pm ::
Ultimate daddy-speak lor.

2. JF left...
Monday, 30 June 2008 9:47 pm ::
Will be praying for ur boi to speak soon.
1 of my frenz his son at 4 yrs and 2 months speaks only 2 words at a time.. so dun rush lah...
Everything will be beautiful in His Time.

3. cakie left...
Tuesday, 1 July 2008 9:25 am
don't worry don't worry, like i told you before my mother thought i was retarded until primary 1.
your son looks damn cute la. i want to play with him!!!!!!!
i can has son also?

4. THB left...
Tuesday, 1 July 2008 10:00 am ::
Will XMM be in his conversation??

5. JayWalk left...
Tuesday, 1 July 2008 10:02 am ::
Linny: What is ultimate daddy speak?

JF: There are 2 obstacles we need to overcome. His speech and his attention span. It is still pretty difficult to get his attention. He doesn't respond.

Cakie: So how did you survive kindergarten?

6. cakie left...
Tuesday, 1 July 2008 11:08 am
i remembered being whacked a lot in kindergarten because i didn't know how to open my mouth to say i want to pee. so i'll just pee. my mother said she taught me till she cried and she really wanted to send me to special school. you can see my kindergarten report card. i did badly in sharing, interacting all that stuff.
can't remember much liao. just offering my exp as a consolation.
now i'm a healthy normal female. so i think mebbe it isn't as bad as it seems.
good luck.

7. grasshopper left...
Tuesday, 1 July 2008 11:18 am
Every other thing you mention seem pretty *normal* (how do you really define that?) as a very very young boy. Maybe he is just the strong silent type, judging by his heart-stopping acrobatic skills and his love of self-expression through art. Let me go ask my psychology-major friend who specializes in children, will let you know.

8. Chocolate gal left...
Tuesday, 1 July 2008 10:04 pm
I think gab boy boy will be fine.. Dont worry too much, okie? hugz.. U take care of yourself in the flooded place hor..

9. Pam left...
Wednesday, 2 July 2008 1:01 am
have you had him checked out by a child psychologist? attention span and speech are very related. does he or did he make any of the usual baby babble noises?

10. JayWalk left...
Wednesday, 2 July 2008 9:16 am :: 
THB: I certainly hope so!

Cakie: Well, really glad to see that you turned out to be one fine young lady.

Grasshopper: Everything is fine except that we can't get his attention. He doesn't respond to us calling him which makes interaction very challenging.

Chocolate Gal: I hope so too but this is one of those things you'd rather know earlier than later. Not that either outcome would change anything.

Pam: You are absolutely right about attention span and it's link to speech. Some how it's the former prior to the latter. He is goo goo gah gahing now.

11. AC left...
Thursday, 3 July 2008 12:33 am
Hi, I'm just a casual reader of your blog but this particular post of yours caught my attention cause I'm currently studying Speech Pathology. Was just wondering if Gabe has been to see a speech pathologist? Cos chances are that the speechie can do the necessary tests and make the relevant recommendations to get a more specific diagnosis. While late talkers quite commonly have been known to catch up, the point about Gabe not responding well (to spoken words only? or to music/sounds too?) seems to be a point that stands out for me... Because there are specific conditions (E.g. Verbal auditory agnosia) where the child has problems recognising sounds even when hearing has shown to be normal. I'm definitely not qualified to make a diagnosis right now but just thought I'd give it my 2 cents worth... Hope all works out well with Gabe. God bless...

12. nonchann left...
Thursday, 3 July 2008 2:16 am
hmm...the signs seem to point towards ADD and possibly autism. I am no expert and I apologize for my rather grim outlook on things. Still ,prevention maybe better still. How about bringing him for autistic assessment? With early intervention and help, he maybe able to be back on the right track by primary school. There's the Autism Resource Center at Pathlight school in AMK. They are pretty good.

13. Pam left...
Thursday, 3 July 2008 4:44 am
Jay - above comments were what I was alluding to but couldn't quite type out details coz hands were full with G (who's recently decided that he'll cry if he's not in the same room as me!, or worse, decided that he'll roll over!). As one old friend to another, do check it out. I can get you referrals if necc. x

14. JayWalk left...
Friday, 4 July 2008 4:09 pm :: 
AC, Pam & nonchann: Thanks for the concern. I shall forward all the suggestions to the wife who have a better clue since both mom and Gabe are in Singapore.

Room To Let

Got this from an old friend who is an avid shutterbug the last I remembered, although I am not sure if Effendi took this picture.

Anyway, this is an interesting poster for rooms to let.

Very nicely done. I like it.

Image Credit: Effendi Baba
- Voxeros

26 June 2009

Gabriel Calls Bedtime

It's 11:50pm.

As I was walking out of the bedroom when Gabe suddenly ran after me to grab hold of my hand to pull me back into the bedroom.

As we entered the bedroom, he led me to the bed.

As I was standing back against the bed, he pushed me and I ended up plop seated on the bed.

As I was seated at the edge of the bed, he clambered onto the bed beside me and push my upper body and I ended up horizontal with my back on the bed.

That's Gabriel telling me to go to bed...

 ... in so many words.

- Voxeros

1. Faith left...
Friday, 26 June 2009 7:47 pm
I'm glad he's communicating with you slowly. It's a start. A nice start.

2. aileen left...
Saturday, 27 June 2009 11:57 am
gabe cares for daddy! awesome~ :)

3. sunflower left...
Sunday, 28 June 2009 12:20 am
Wasn't he being so sweet to you?

4. JayWalk left...
Sunday, 28 June 2009 8:54 am :: 
Faith, aileen & sunflower: Yeah. If only he talks...

5. Sophie left...
Sunday, 28 June 2009 10:37 am
that is Gabe's way of showing his love for his papa. one day, those actions will be expressed in words. have faith in Gabe.

6. rn left...
Monday, 29 June 2009 1:13 am ::
awww... don't worry, daddy. Gabe is saying so much. It takes time, but it will come.
Have faith.

7. Faith left...
Monday, 29 June 2009 10:01 am
Baby steps. Soon....have patience, faith and trust.

8. Razlan left...
Monday, 29 June 2009 8:49 pm ::
This is very touching. Like all before me had said, one step at a time.

9. JayWalk left...
Saturday, 11 July 2009 11:48 am :: 
Sophie, Razlan, Faith & RN: Well, I do hope that the time comes sooner than later, if at all.

21 June 2009

Happy Birthday Troy!

My Godson had a birthday party last Saturday and boy did we have a lot of kids turned up!

Anyway, that's Troy with the cheeky tongue sticking out.

Happy Birthday, kiddo!
- Voxeros

14 June 2009

DJ Ozma / Drinkin'Boys

Got this off CowG0esM0o's facebook account who in turn got it from somebody else and it all traced back to a certain Margarita Antonio who posted this wickedly disturbingly funny dance video.

Really weird shite! But funny as hell.

Click picture to watch.

p.s. Watch out for them to balls drop. That cannot be explained!

Afternote: Found the youtube clip, courtesy of CowG0esM0o and replaced the facebook version with the youtube one as the latter is much clearer.

- Voxeros

1. s left...
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3. JayWalk left...
Monday, 15 June 2009 9:24 am :: 
Serene: Hullo. Having trouble trying to comment? Long time no hear!

4. starmist left...
Wednesday, 17 June 2009 8:21 am
this is disturbing -_-"

5. JayWalk left...
Sunday, 28 June 2009 8:47 am :: 
Starmist: Ok lah... not that freakish lah...

03 June 2009

Just The Way It Is

"Seek help."

"Early intervention."

"Special school."

"No gluten."

"No casein."

"Will catch up."

I must have heard all these like a thousand times.

Don't get me wrong. I am still very grateful for the well wishers and those who love and care for Gabriel.

But part of me is wondering why are we looking at Gabriel like he is spoiled and the urgent need to "repair" him or he will be a lost cause forever?

Has anyone thought that perhaps God wants him to grow up the way he is now? Perhaps his autism is God's path for him?

Perhaps we have to remind ourselves not to take too much upon ourselves and instead to commit them to the grace of God?

Frankly, I am not sure if I have thrown in the towel trying to fight the inevitable or am I choosing the path alongside with nature taking its course?

Funny how we as adults are the ones feeling down about it, when Gabriel is happily waking up to each new day?

Perhaps we should just leave things the way it is and let Gabriel grow up the way he wants to grow up?

So many questions...... *sigh*

- Voxeros

1. rn left...
Wednesday, 3 June 2009 10:48 pm ::
Sometimes, there is no answer.
But Gabe is very fortunate to have you as a dad. Honestly.

2. JayWalk left...
Wednesday, 3 June 2009 10:59 pm :: 
RN: Credit goes more to the wife who has been a pillar of strength raising the kids, especially during the early years when I was not around.

3. msvindicta left...
Thursday, 4 June 2009 2:15 am
i don't quite know what to say. *hugs*
btw, didn't notice gabe has dimples. very adorable. :)

4. Mistress Grace left...
Thursday, 4 June 2009 12:18 pm
We as parents tend to try to mould our children in the way we want them to grow. However its true that sometimes we overlook what our children one. However, whatever it is, we hope for the best for Gabe.

5. Faith left...
Thursday, 4 June 2009 12:54 pm
As a Christian, I always believe that God has a reason and purpose for everything in life. Yes, perhaps God wants him to grow up the way he is. And true, autistic and special children always seem to be happier and truer to their emotions. And sometimes I wish I can be like them and be true to my emotions and truly enjoy every laugh and tear drop. Like my prayers, I always pray for God's will and not my will. Will keep you and Gabe in prayers.

6. moby left...
Thursday, 4 June 2009 2:02 pm ::
Hi, my son has autism too, and like you, my wife and I felt lost and confused when he was first diagnosed with autism. We come to accept his condition and he's doing quite well in school. Yes, they are all special and I believe recognizing that fact and supporting them is the best help we can give them.

7. JayWalk left...
Friday, 5 June 2009 12:30 am :: 
msvindicta: Thanks for the hugs. I will collect on that when I see you. :P

Mistress Grace: Autism is not as bad as it appears to be. It is just an alternative way to live.

Faith: That's my point. He is autistic because God made him so and for a reason that is probably beyond our mortal comprehension. So just leave it in the hands of God lor.

Moby: Just because your kid has autism doesn't mean you love him any less right? Likewise for me lor.

8. wheregtofree left...
Saturday, 6 June 2009 3:44 am ::
Gabriel looks very happy go lucky type of kid. No worries

9. sunflower left...
Tuesday, 9 June 2009 11:34 pm
I also thnk Gabriel look like normal kids.
Dont worry, I am sure he will turn out to be a fine adult when he receive all the love and care from you and your wife.

10. aileen left...
Wednesday, 10 June 2009 9:43 pm
take it on faith. he's fortunate to have such caring parents.

11. JayWalk left...
Sunday, 14 June 2009 7:44 pm :: 
Wheregotfree: Welcome to the blog! He is happy go lucky. :)

Sunflower: He does look normal. Just wish he can talk.

aileen: He is safe as long as we are around. It's the when-we-are-not-around part that worries me.