03 June 2009

Just The Way It Is

"Seek help."

"Early intervention."

"Special school."

"No gluten."

"No casein."

"Will catch up."

I must have heard all these like a thousand times.

Don't get me wrong. I am still very grateful for the well wishers and those who love and care for Gabriel.

But part of me is wondering why are we looking at Gabriel like he is spoiled and the urgent need to "repair" him or he will be a lost cause forever?

Has anyone thought that perhaps God wants him to grow up the way he is now? Perhaps his autism is God's path for him?

Perhaps we have to remind ourselves not to take too much upon ourselves and instead to commit them to the grace of God?

Frankly, I am not sure if I have thrown in the towel trying to fight the inevitable or am I choosing the path alongside with nature taking its course?

Funny how we as adults are the ones feeling down about it, when Gabriel is happily waking up to each new day?

Perhaps we should just leave things the way it is and let Gabriel grow up the way he wants to grow up?

So many questions...... *sigh*

- Voxeros

1. rn left...
Wednesday, 3 June 2009 10:48 pm ::
Sometimes, there is no answer.
But Gabe is very fortunate to have you as a dad. Honestly.

2. JayWalk left...
Wednesday, 3 June 2009 10:59 pm :: 
RN: Credit goes more to the wife who has been a pillar of strength raising the kids, especially during the early years when I was not around.

3. msvindicta left...
Thursday, 4 June 2009 2:15 am
i don't quite know what to say. *hugs*
btw, didn't notice gabe has dimples. very adorable. :)

4. Mistress Grace left...
Thursday, 4 June 2009 12:18 pm
We as parents tend to try to mould our children in the way we want them to grow. However its true that sometimes we overlook what our children one. However, whatever it is, we hope for the best for Gabe.

5. Faith left...
Thursday, 4 June 2009 12:54 pm
As a Christian, I always believe that God has a reason and purpose for everything in life. Yes, perhaps God wants him to grow up the way he is. And true, autistic and special children always seem to be happier and truer to their emotions. And sometimes I wish I can be like them and be true to my emotions and truly enjoy every laugh and tear drop. Like my prayers, I always pray for God's will and not my will. Will keep you and Gabe in prayers.

6. moby left...
Thursday, 4 June 2009 2:02 pm ::
Hi, my son has autism too, and like you, my wife and I felt lost and confused when he was first diagnosed with autism. We come to accept his condition and he's doing quite well in school. Yes, they are all special and I believe recognizing that fact and supporting them is the best help we can give them.

7. JayWalk left...
Friday, 5 June 2009 12:30 am :: 
msvindicta: Thanks for the hugs. I will collect on that when I see you. :P

Mistress Grace: Autism is not as bad as it appears to be. It is just an alternative way to live.

Faith: That's my point. He is autistic because God made him so and for a reason that is probably beyond our mortal comprehension. So just leave it in the hands of God lor.

Moby: Just because your kid has autism doesn't mean you love him any less right? Likewise for me lor.

8. wheregtofree left...
Saturday, 6 June 2009 3:44 am ::
Gabriel looks very happy go lucky type of kid. No worries

9. sunflower left...
Tuesday, 9 June 2009 11:34 pm
I also thnk Gabriel look like normal kids.
Dont worry, I am sure he will turn out to be a fine adult when he receive all the love and care from you and your wife.

10. aileen left...
Wednesday, 10 June 2009 9:43 pm
take it on faith. he's fortunate to have such caring parents.

11. JayWalk left...
Sunday, 14 June 2009 7:44 pm :: 
Wheregotfree: Welcome to the blog! He is happy go lucky. :)

Sunflower: He does look normal. Just wish he can talk.

aileen: He is safe as long as we are around. It's the when-we-are-not-around part that worries me.

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