24 December 2009

3 Doors

I just closed the door behind me about a month ago and now I am presented with 3 in front of me. Although, none of them are opened at the moment, it doesn't stop me thinking about which one to go to.
For all you know, I may not get a choice if only one door opens for me. Worse, none of them opens at all.

Door #1
This door leads me back to an old door which I closed behind me many years ago. Re-opening it will bring me back to familiar territory. I left because I wasn't ready to settle down and grow roots in one place back then. I left because of two-faced backstabbing assholes which I felt sick just being under the same roof.
Well, that was more than a decade ago and times have changed. I have changed. The asshole has left too.
The pay will be so-so but job will not be difficult as I have already 4 years of experience in the bag even before I step in. If I enter this door, it will be cruising all the way to the finishing line and that's it. No big pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

Door #2
Totally new and unchartered waters which I will be like a fish out of water. My survival will depend if I am able develop lungs quickly to replace the gills before keeling over.
The money is very good. Lotsa zeroes at the back but how long can I hold on to it, if at all, remains a question mark. The prospect looks very good as far as personal development is concerned and will be the big break turning point if I make it.
Still, it means leaving behind all the expert knowledge that I have accumulated over the years and starting over. Armed with just the fundamentals of steering, the path ahead is dark and scary.

Door #3
Biggest door of them all and I have everything that I need for this door as this is the same room as my China door, only bigger. Much bigger. This door will mean I will be traveling again but Singapore will still be home at the end of the day.
I believe my battle scars will be the strongest to make it through the slit under the door but there is concern if I am over qualified for it? What if it is merely a big door to a big house but a small room within is where I am headed?
I certainly hope not and the word "Regional" seems to provide some sort of a calming assurance.

Too many unknown variables going on right now and it's the festive period where everything is put on hold until thereafter.
We'll see.
In the meantime, perhaps it is wise not to fret so much and enjoy the fellowship of good kin and friends in the meanwhile, during the festive season.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year one and all!

Image Credit :
- Voxeros

1. Hamie left...
Friday, 25 December 2009 10:43 pm
i was looking at your Door 2 and the following are my 2 cents worth of thought. if your business network can't fit into the new door, i'll advise against it with the following concerns.
- you're middle age = ability + speed to develop the lungs reduce as people ages. unless, of course, u're out of the stats - you're a family man = u need to be there for your wife, kids + sundry of what a family entails = u can't focus 100% without tearing your hair out in the process developing your new lungs. unless, of course again, u're the exceptional out of the stats
and bcos of the above, u'll feel far more stress doing it than if u're single, young and without tat much of worries on your shoulders. if u happen to fail in Door 2, would it be easy to go back to the industry where your expertise lies in?
i'm thinking for your family's sake, to go to the Door where you can swim well. =)

2. JayWalk left...
Friday, 25 December 2009 11:10 pm :: 
Hamie: Well thought out points there. I did think of what you've said. Just that a new door is a new challenge and an opportunity to widen one's scope. Personal development is a form of self education and hence it means that this is a perpetual exercise till you last dying breath.

I wonder if there is a age-limit to accepting new challenges?

You are right about one thing though. Stability and security is very important for the family at this point in time. We'll see how it goes.

3. Hamie left...
Friday, 25 December 2009 11:21 pm
for the age limit to accepting new challenges, yes, i'd think so.
for the physical body "depreciates" in all mental and emotional aspects as one ages = there's less amount of stress on the body one can handle as the organs + cells + tissues ages. i feel a good example is lesser level of alcohol tolerance one gets as one ages.
however, this is very individual, subject to genes and the external environment. like, are your folks very garang still in their 60s? then you're likely to have the genes though in all fairness, there're many people who fall out of the stats.
some people have a false perception of their general wellbeing and assume that they can drive on when actually, they're overdriving themselves. i think it'd be prudent to ask if you're in this category. for there're many people who die in their prime leaving their family in tatters this way.
all in all, i'd always advise good insurance coverage for your dependants if one would like to chiong in their lives. so even if hearts are broken at the end of the day (touchwood), their tummies + education won't be hurt.
i'm not an insurance agent, by the way. =)

4. JayWalk left...
Monday, 28 December 2009 12:16 am :: 
Hamie: Many thanks for the input. Will factor what you said when I make my decision.

My folks are very active even in their 70s. Dad and I used to play golf regular when we were back in spitland.

5. JF left...
Tuesday, 29 December 2009 2:30 pm
BRo, i reccomend for Door 1 or 3 depends on which opens up more durign this time. Ultimately the decision to chiong or stay lies with you. But if its me, i would go for door 1.

6. JayWalk left...
Tuesday, 29 December 2009 11:43 pm :: 
JF: Frankly, I am hoping Door 3 will open as I will be able to apply my know-how accumulated over the past 8 to 10 years to good application. Can't say the same for the other 2 doors.

7. Ruok left...
Wednesday, 30 December 2009 9:27 am
This reminds me of the band 3 Doors Down. :P
Oops that sounded a little negative. I do hope the right door opens for ya.

8. JayWalk left...
Wednesday, 30 December 2009 10:37 am :: 
ruok: Yeah, I heard of that band too, although the first band that came to mind was 3 Dog Night. Thanks for the well wish. Hope everything pans out well.

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