22 February 2008

A Sibling Moment

It was one of those rare moments to see the two of them doing something together. To many, it may not be that big of a deal but to us, it is a totally different story.

Remember how I used to joke that Gabriel is "Spaced Out Man"? Well, at the age of 2.5 years old, the joke no longer sound funny anymore as we suspect that Gabe has a mild case of autism.

Not being able to speak at the age does not worry me as I have seen children developing speech skills as late as 6 years old. Right now, Gabe is able to communicate via gestures such as taking your hand and placing it on the knob of the door that he wishes you to help him open.

My only concern is the impossibility to get his attention. Calling his name yields no response as if he is deaf (and blind). And yes, we checked with the doctors and various tests, his hearing is normal.

However, my gut feel is that he is just a late developer and with the help of specialist therapies and what-nots, he should eventually turn out to be a normal kid.

Que sera sera.

- Voxeros

1. JF left...
Friday, 22 February 2008 5:24 pm
mai worry.. come out with Uncle JX and i will make sure he shout and scream

2. Eddy left...
Friday, 22 February 2008 5:37 pm
bring him out with us. All the bar uncle and auntie will surely bring out the talkative side of him.

3. rn left...
Saturday, 23 February 2008 4:15 am ::
my brother was 4 before he spoke and he turned out fine. You're right about Que Sera Sera! it's all in His Hands.

4. Gary left...
Saturday, 23 February 2008 9:08 am
i can admit to you that im one of the rare cases as well.. i didnt speak until i was 4-5..

5. Red Queen left...
Saturday, 23 February 2008 10:24 am
Ah Mal didnt speak until 2 plus too.. my cousin's kid didnt speak until 5 and my brother didnt speak until 3 plus.. they all turned out fine too.. maybe he just doesnt know his name... Ah mal din react to his name until we convince him he is malcolm and he should react to malcolm mak. Maybe you should try that, now he doesnt shut up even when u tell him to

6. JayWalk left...
Saturday, 23 February 2008 11:47 am :: 
JF: Where? Thai Disco har? Walau... neber jio me?!!

Eddy: I scared he drinks you under the table. Kelly will keel me.

RN: Yah. I supposed just let things develop on its own natural pace. Rush also no use.

Gary: On contrary, it is fairly common but of course it is every parents' wish for their kids to be within the bell curve.

Red Queen: I am aware of the stats but I do concede that it gets a bit unnerving where your kid is the only one among my group of friends' kids to be falling "behind schedule".

7. Zhiyi left...
Saturday, 23 February 2008 6:01 pm
hi, just happened to chance upon your blog.
just want to offer some encouragement and i personally think that nothing about autism can be confirmed until about 3-4 years old so maybe your son is just a late developer(boys often are)? it is an encouraging sign that he communicates well non-verbally, so not all hope is lost :)

8. JayWalk left...
Sunday, 24 February 2008 9:35 am :: 
ZhiYi: Welcome to the blog and thanks for the well wish. My gut feel says that everything should turn out ok but I just felt that I should make some room for mental preparation, just in case. Either way, Gabe will always be Gabe. God made him who he is for a reason and we should just learn to accept that.

9. Chocolate gal left...
Sunday, 24 February 2008 3:53 pm
Don't worry too much.. i'm sure he will turn out as cheeky and talkative as you are.. After all, apples don't fall far from the tree _

10. merryfeet left...
Sunday, 24 February 2008 7:23 pm

11. Cowboy Caleb left...
Sunday, 24 February 2008 9:02 pm
I asked my mom about this (she's a kindergarten teacher) and she said she's seen many cases like this. It's not common, but it's not that uncommon as well.

12. Posh left...
Sunday, 24 February 2008 10:58 pm
Gabe is God's blessing to you and the family. Am sure he will turn out fine.

13. JayWalk left...
Monday, 25 February 2008 12:10 am :: 
Chocolate Gal: Thanks for the well wish. Appreciate that.

Cowboy: I guess we'll have to leave this to God's hands. Hopefully things turn out for the better at the end of the day.

Posh: Regardless of how he turns out. He will always be a blessing.

14. grasshopper left...
Monday, 25 February 2008 8:27 am
My younger bro developed his own language *Jibberish* and refuse to speak like the rest of us. We actually learnt to understand him and it was surprising fun. Kids are kids lor, they have their own world and I remembered it was a much better place.
Dunch worry lah~
I think he ignored you purposely one... ... heehee

15. JayWalk left...
Monday, 25 February 2008 1:45 pm :: 
Grasshopper: If on purpose, it would have been fine but he ignores everybody which is what I am worried about sans his mother and the nanny.

16. J left...
Monday, 25 February 2008 5:28 pm
it MAY be developmental issues..MAY. if anyone is truly worried, perhaps it will be good to speak to a psychologist.

17. Faith Sim left...
Monday, 25 February 2008 9:35 pm ::
Can across your blog through Sheylara's blog. She's my monster....Anyway, I'm a teacher and I've worked with kids that are slow developers and kids with special needs. With slow developers, sometimes they suggest develop late and they do catch up in upper primary. Seen that happen numerous times. Pop me an email if you want suggestions to help him with his non verbal skills. Sometimes helping him with non verbal skills can lead to him speaking faster.

18. JayWalk left...
Tuesday, 26 February 2008 10:22 am :: 
J: Hi J, Welcome to the blog. Right now Gabe is seeing some therapist and so for now I think that is all we can do.

Faith Sim: A warm welcome to the blog to you too! As I am stuck in Spitland, the wife is very much in charge of things as far as Gabe is concerned. As I have said earlier, I think we have done all we can do for now. But nevertheless, I would like to keep you as an available option. Who knows? I may need your help in the unseen future. Is your email your msn account as well?

19. okiedokie left...
Tuesday, 26 February 2008 5:04 pm
dun worry too much... I didn't talk until i was 4-5 yrs old (as told by my grandma) and I turned out fine... And since he does gesturing to indicate what he wants, should have no problem.. (coz I did the same thing when i was that age) probably he's just lazy to talk =p

20. JayWalk left...
Tuesday, 26 February 2008 8:10 pm :: 
okie dokie: I certainly hope that it is as you think it is. *fingers crossed*

21. Faith Sim left...
Wednesday, 27 February 2008 4:46 pm
Hey Jay,
Ya, my email is the same as my msn. Just pop me an email any time. Will be more than willing to help. So of the stuff, can even be homemade.

22. JayWalk left...
Thursday, 28 February 2008 11:42 am :: 
Faith Sim: Added you on MSN liao. I have forwarded your offer to the wifey. I let her decide how to take it from here. Coz as much as help is good, there is only so much we can undertake at a time. Still like I said, I would like to keep you as an available option if not for now then for later.

23. Faith left...
Thursday, 28 February 2008 10:33 pm
Yup, just let me know if you guys want help. I'm currently based in HK. But no worries, just pop me an email and let me know how I can help. My sister is also in education, actually, she's in early childhood education, and she's doing her masters in special ed as well. I'll probably be able to get some tips from her.

24. hiaoauntie left...
Thursday, 28 February 2008 11:21 pm
jay u can also count on me for any help.... dun forget i have a diploma in early childhood and if u so require, i can do an observation report (over a period of a few days or weeks) on gabe if u need one to pass on to the child psychologist or therapist for further follow up... i hv already done a few reports for other parents... just that now i am a little unwell due to treatment and once i am well enough, i can help you....

25. JayWalk left...
Friday, 29 February 2008 9:26 am :: 
Faith: Which part of HK are you in? I am practically a skip and a hop away from you! Anyway, again thanks for the offer. Will let you know if we need anything.

hiaoauntie: Thanks for the offer too but for now, I think it is wiser to first get yourself up and running first. How's the treatment coming along? Finishing soon?

26. hiaoauntie left...
Friday, 29 February 2008 4:54 pm
suffering.... lots of side effects

27. JayWalk left...
Saturday, 1 March 2008 2:37 pm :: 
hiaoauntie: Sorry to hear that but it will be over soon. Get well soon!

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