12 May 2006

Health And Mortality

I was just chatting with a friend when she dropped the bombshell on me that she found a lump and was totally distraught by it. She went for a scan but the problem with it was that results are not immediately known and as such there would be that torturous few days where she was held in helpless limbo just sitting there waiting.

I know that feeling but I shan't dwell on it here. That would be another story another time.

I am no strangers to early unexpected deaths of good friends and dear ones. Derrick died in a car accident when he was in Poly and me in Sec 3. My ACJC junior, Erwin died in another car accident when his driver's license was only 9 days old. And then I have Elaine who was lost to colon cancer at the age of 30+.

I am very well aware of my own mortality and have been doing everything that I can to preserve that. I hardly drink these days and I've quit smoking. I resumed my gym last year and I've started to fall in love with running again.

However, there is still one thing that would probably kill me. Work stress. I don't know how many times suicide has crossed my mind but then again, it was just mere thoughts as I think I still have enough logical cow sense in me not to yield and give up so easily.

A hug from Faith, a kiss from the wife or a tug at my pant sleeve from Gabriel was all it takes to remind me that being alive is a better place to be. However, I think my whiny folks will eventually be the death of me. God, give me strength!

To the ladies, out there, regular checks are something that one cannot ignore nor postpone. Early detection saves you a heck of a lot of grief, both for yourself and for your love ones.

To the guys, be there and be supportive every step of the way. Your woman will greatly need that, even though some of them may, as a result of pride and ego (yes, woman have BIG egos too!), deny so but I tell you deep down they need every support that they can get. Slap them solid solid in the head if you have to.

On another note. Here's a question to everyone.

If your significantly other were to depart unexpectedly, would you remain single or would you go out there to look for another partner?

Passing the mic to the floor.

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- Voxeros

1. Jaschocolate left...
Friday, 12 May 2006 7:42 pm
Will stay single but if the right person comes by again, probably will give it a try.. BUT then, i must have a SO first, now still happily in love with my single life :p

2. JayWalk left...
Friday, 12 May 2006 7:55 pm ::
Jaschocolate: You're right. You need to get your first bf out of the way first before this topic becomes relevant to you.

3. Jaschocolate left...
Friday, 12 May 2006 10:49 pm
Yeah, but that's not urgent... now is to have more fun.. :p

4. Koreanhousewife left...
Saturday, 13 May 2006 11:11 am
I like the Piaget’s Possession ring love the tag line for the ring is: Love and Faithfulness. I stay true to the one and only for as long as both of us stay together. If he depart one day, I will grieve. But I cant grieve forever and close my door to future possible happiness. One cannot hibernate and get stuck in the old way (sadness) for too long. I will shake off the cobwebs and move on...

5. OLLie left...
Saturday, 13 May 2006 12:51 pm
I think I'll probably stay single. I will think and think and think about my loved one, remembering all the times that we spent together and stuff. It's not easy to move on. But eventually I will move on I guess.

6. JayWalk left...
Saturday, 13 May 2006 3:04 pm :: 
Jaschocolate: Enjoy your singlehood! More power to you girl!

Koreanhousewife: I guess like you, I tend to look forward more than the past.

OLLie: Here's the thing about people. They come and they go. When they go, let them go, just as when they come, let them come.

7. koreanhousewife left...
Saturday, 13 May 2006 11:37 pm
I like wat U have written abt people. They come and they go. When they go, let them go, just when they come, let them come.
I used to be so guarded and refuse to let man come close to me. I cant underst the term: When they come, let them come. In short, like to play: Hard to get. In the end, I realised I turn away afew gd man, and now regret.
Have U read abt a write-up call: Reason, season & lifetime? Check it out, if U have not. Everytime I read, I tend to tear, wat have written is touchin and makes alot of sense...

8. Zhe Bin left...
Sunday, 14 May 2006 2:18 am
Hmm.. I guess I would move on no matter how long it takes. But that person I'm gonna fall for will be someone who is magnanimous enough to accept that my late significant other was a huge part of me. And still she lives on in me. I doubt I can totally forget her. Probably the things I do each day might remind me of her, but the current one is still the one I love. And this current one should be someone unlike the previous one. That is much easier for me to fall for her. And like her for her.
Wah your this question v.thought-provoking.

9. Zhe Bin left...
Sunday, 14 May 2006 2:20 am
And I hope it turns out fine for your friend.

10. JayWalk left...
Sunday, 14 May 2006 5:17 am :: 
KoreanHouseWife: Even if they come and you know that they will leave you eventually, don't worry about the eventual departure. Instead, focus on enjoying the ride while you are together.

ZheBin: I am happy to report that she is fine. Just need a much simpler procedure and she will be back in the pink before you know it.

11. Koreanhousewife left...
Sunday, 14 May 2006 8:10 am
I also say...
Hey, going to bed. Its 8.06am. Last nite I slept early but woke up at 12am cos gastric juice made me wanna puke. Then cant sleep, went thru yr blog neighbours list, I came across: Mee Pok Tah. Man...I really like his style (damn witty and kind-hearted) and he made me had a perm grin at my face while readin. I didnt read all, but did some speed readin. Anyway, take gd care of yrself oversea.

12. JayWalk left...
Monday, 15 May 2006 1:50 am :: 
KoreanHouseWife: Ahh... MeePok from my Secondary School days. Glad you like him too!

13. Sallie left...
Monday, 15 May 2006 2:33 am
hiya, will probably get slated for this, but I think, if the hubby goes before me, I will have to move on. It depends of course as to when that, when I am younger, with young children, or when I'm older with grown-up children. Either way, I hope that I will be able to move on, not necessarily with the idea to marry, but perhaps for companionship.
If I go first, I would want him to do the same.

14. JayWalk left...
Monday, 15 May 2006 4:26 am :: 
SALlie: Likewise for me as I firmly do not believe in stagnation. Moving on is key in having a meaningful life.

15. aloe left...
Monday, 15 May 2006 10:05 am
I would not purposely look for another, but if the right person comes along and managed to break me out of my shell of grief, then why not? I'm sure my partner would not want me to wallow in grief forever. Similar for me, although I think I would be jealous, I would still be happy if I know he managed to find someone else to love when I pass on. :)

16. akk left...
Monday, 15 May 2006 10:36 am
you're kidding! of cos must move on. sun rises and sets every day. I wouldn't want my guy to grieve too much over me either. must quickly pick up and move becos not only i suffer, my kids would, my parents would, my frens would. I just hope for the strength to be able to move on after, esp knowing full well I'll start comparing everyone to my spouse when I shouldn't and seriously, who can ever win against a memory?

17. mht left...
Monday, 15 May 2006 12:16 pm
i always tell my wife that i want to go before her. but if she leaves me (and the two kids) behind, i really would not know how to handle it.

18. JayWalk left...
Monday, 15 May 2006 2:03 pm ::
Anna: I guess you are right in the sense that we don't make it a special point to go all out to look for the next partner.
Perhaps it's up to kismet that should the right one come along, you would know it.

Akk: I like you spirit. Memories that happen in the present shall serve as a gift for the future from the past.

mht: I supposed when the kids are young now, all typical young fathers like you and me would most probably kalang kabok. *touch wood*

19. koreanhousewife left...
Monday, 15 May 2006 11:34 pm
It was a joyride, readin them. He is a gem.

20. JayWalk left...
Tuesday, 16 May 2006 2:11 am :: 
KoreanHouseWife: He hasn't been updating recently and perhaps you are able to write in to him and give him a kick in his idle ass.

21. koreanhousewife left...
Tuesday, 16 May 2006 10:49 am
Awww....not sure abt writing to him, out of the blue. Berri funny right? Its just like U extented yr friendship to me, then I dare to post at yr playground. I was just attracted to his jokes, find them original without tryin to hard. Plus he make effort to tutor kids. One of his postin abt his mom askin him abt gettin a more posh car and he firmly said: NO. He explained: His identity is NOT determined by the car he drive. I reckon tat postin reflect his maturity and he is grounded in many ways. Nice chap, I am charmed.

22. JayWalk left...
Tuesday, 16 May 2006 1:12 pm :: 
KoreanHouseWife: Well, did you not show up here out of the blue too? Besides, being the charming ACS boys that we are, your little note would certainly be welcomed.

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