08 November 2005

5 Things (Part 2) - By Right, I Should Still Be A Bachelor

Just got a email from the wife and she pointed out to me that we will begin our 10th year of marriage next year.

"Wow!" was just about the most intelligent response that I could muster then.

So after walking down the path for past 9 years, I thought I use this blog entry as a pause in the walk in order to look back at the road trodden.

Like a professional footballer or tennis player, my "Career (Of Love)" was short but intensively hectic from the age of 16 to 26. In it, there were 2 serious girlfriends (excluding the wife) and countless number of those in the "Others" category.

However, before anyone starts getting the wrong idea that I was some ferocious predator, let it be known that I have my fair share of crash-and-burns and so I say that the score was pretty even then. Problem is that people only remember the bad juicy parts and hence the "Dangerous" reputation" back in university (Right, Pam?)


So naturally everybody starts assuming that I am the "chee hong kia" that will never be tied down. Very much like Uncle Charlie in "Two And A Half Man" as it appeared that I have all the makings of one. Let's see, a pretty decent job, a nice set of wheels, nice bachelor apartment, club memberships, blah blah blah... But like I said, this is just the exterior appearance and does, in no way, represent the person that I truly am within.

Ok Ok, so for the sake of discussion, let's assume that I am Big Bad Barracuda. Then I tell you that this is a clinical classic case of karma for the biggest fish in the sea is often the very first one to kena harpooned.

And so the good news of the wedding came as a shock to everybody and close friends who "knew my kuan" (Translate: "knew my type"), thought it was either a) talking while intoxicated, b) mega practical joke or c) shot gun case. Nobody believed it initially. Not even my own folks. TMD.... -_-"

The real question behind all this would be "Why?" Why did I take the leap of faith at such an early point in my life as there so yet "so many other fishes in the sea" or "so many other trees in the forest"?

The answer is simple. She was the right one. Period. Besides, if I miss this chance, I may never get another and the risk of regretting it for the rest of my life was just too big a wager. To take a cheesy line off the movies, Carpé diem.

At times, I asked myself would it be better if she was say... 9 years younger? I would definitely say "Yes" as it would mean less time pressure to get married (kids!) and we could both enjoy a few more years savouring the sweetness of courtship, instead of being bogged down with the prospect of planning a family so soon.

As someone once told me, this type of thing is fated one. We are of the same age and it was meant to be. Do not mistake me for being unhappy. I am merely doing a bit of "What If" type of wondering.

A guy can do a bit of wondering, right? No?
- Voxeros

1. vandice left...
Tuesday, 8 November 2005 5:21 am ::
Actually, given the way you sound (both on your blog and voice postings), it really seems like you're the swinging bachelor woman magnet type. Guess in your case, its really appearances can deceive...

2. nadnut left...
Tuesday, 8 November 2005 9:03 am ::
soooo sweet! 10 years!

3. JayWalk left...
Tuesday, 8 November 2005 9:41 am :: 
Vandice: You know, I get that a lot but I am used to it already. I have come to a stage where I no longer bother to change other people's misconception about me. It is a losing battle as such people are endless.

I let my actions speak for themselves and if these people don't take the extra step to get to know me better, than so be it. I also LPPL. :)

Nadnut: Yup, it will be 10 happy years with the harpoon still sticking. (",)

4. ahdokboy left...
Tuesday, 8 November 2005 2:53 pm
how long did you 2 date for? I've already been with The Girlfriend for 5 years, almost 6, and by your age we would have been together for..21 years? Heh, kinda scary as i think about it. You and I are the opposite man. Your friends said that you'll never be tied down, my friends keep saying i'll be the first to marry.

5. JayWalk left...
Tuesday, 8 November 2005 2:58 pm :: 
ahdokboy: Er... agar agar 2 years? Fate this type of thing hor, hard to say one. Some people buy 1 time TOTO strike already. Others buy their whole lifetime also never kena.
I guess what I am trying to say is don't try to analyse these things lah. Go with the flow and see where it takes you.

6. ahdokboy left...
Tuesday, 8 November 2005 9:13 pm
Haha...great analogy man. Hope I don't have to spend any more money buying TOTO...and waste money.

7. mihuatang left...
Tuesday, 8 November 2005 9:41 pm
too late for By Right, Left or Centre!
so have you line up a list of celebrations for the 10th year. (hmm... maybe for a start... your family will move over to D0ngguan and station there together with you? at least till the two little ones have reached school-going age!)
or is there a Big Suprise (sounds like Barney!)like a XX-caratS DIAMOND!

8. JayWalk left...
Tuesday, 8 November 2005 10:07 pm :: 
ahdokboy: Let me add to that. For those who haven't strike TOTO yet, they will always keep trying because of this thing call "hope".

mihuatang: Alamak, I just wondering out loud only lah, can?
Anyway, we are, or at least I am thinking of doing something but at this stage, it is still too early to reveal anything. Sekali I jinxed it! Stay tuned....

9. vanna left...
Wednesday, 9 November 2005 1:06 am
it takes a lot to maintain a relationship yet alone a marriage... NICE!!
happy anniversary in advance.. :")

10. JayWalk left...
Wednesday, 9 November 2005 7:20 am ::
Vanna: Thanks Vanna! Right now start to wreck brain as to what to do come 2006.

11. akk left...
Wednesday, 9 November 2005 11:26 am
Happy 10 years of marriage and many more to come! I also want to straightaway strike lottery becos looking for the other half can be very tiring! :)

12. JayWalk left...
Wednesday, 9 November 2005 11:37 am :: 
akk: I think you very close to hitting that big Ang Pow soon. No?

13. Pam left...
Thursday, 10 November 2005 7:22 pm
wah...10 years oreadi..! long time! it's 10 years too, since i left sg. still remember your announcement - and the huge disbelief all round!! haha.:)
am back finally, from germany - apologies for the rather obtuse SMS i sent. may talk about it sometime...

did you get the attachment you wanted? hope it's the right one.
laters, dude.

14. JayWalk left...
Friday, 11 November 2005 8:55 am ::
Pam: Like I said in the other comment. Welcome back!
The attachment is the right one. Thanks!

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