Got this picture from Krisandro
Perhaps there was the underlying subtle sarcasm of the lack of social graces among us Singaporeans who buay zi tong when it come to offering seats to those who need them more to us.
Admittedly, guys are always at the losing end as a result of a single English word coined in the days of yore.
Chivalry.
Bleh.
So, then it got me thinking of another scenario and I thought I pose the question here for all to ponder.
Question 1:
What if there is only one seat in the entire MRT cabin and we have a 100-year old man, a 9-month pregnant lady and a parent with a 2-week old infant.
Who do you think should get the only seat?
And while we are on a roll on questions. Let's take another one.
Question 2:
This question is for the ladies. Assuming you are a little pudgy in the middle and someone stood up and offered you his/her seat thinking that you are pregnant.
What would you do? Take the seat or not?
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1. Sylvie left...
Q2: I'm a female. No, I'm not married/pregnant yet. But if anyone offers me a seat, I'd thank him/her graciously AND accept the seat. No point embarrassing the kind soul AND myself. When I see someone who needs it more than me, I'll offer the seat in turn.
Tuesday, 12 August 2008 9:47 pm
Q1: The 9-month pregnant lady. Have you ever carried a 10kg bowling ball in a sling on your tummy?? Q2: I'm a female. No, I'm not married/pregnant yet. But if anyone offers me a seat, I'd thank him/her graciously AND accept the seat. No point embarrassing the kind soul AND myself. When I see someone who needs it more than me, I'll offer the seat in turn.
2. JayWalk left...
Wednesday, 13 August 2008 8:09 am ::
Sylvie: What about the 2-week old infant? 3. starm|st left...
Qn 1: I'll give it to the one who LookS like he/she needs the seat the most. Qn 2: I'll politely reject the seat with a smile.
Wednesday, 13 August 2008 10:20 am
eh.. don't play play. chivalry is underrated.. it's sth very rare these days..aye, what to do. i'm an 18th C girl. Qn 1: I'll give it to the one who LookS like he/she needs the seat the most. Qn 2: I'll politely reject the seat with a smile.
4. JayWalk left...
Wednesday, 13 August 2008 12:00 pm ::
Starmist: re: Qn.2. Wouldn't it be better to just take the seat. That way only you know you are getting fat, rather that admitting to the entire MRT cabin? 5. msvindicta left...
Q2: decline, point at the guy's beer belly and say, "you need it more anyway".
Wednesday, 13 August 2008 12:40 pm
Q1: i think i'll give up my seat to the parent with the 2 week old infant. it's scary when you see parents carrying young babies and wavering in the bus. then i'll make 2 other ppl give up their seats. Q2: decline, point at the guy's beer belly and say, "you need it more anyway".
6. JD left...
So shy.
Wednesday, 13 August 2008 3:01 pm
Q1. 100 year old man. Then force others to give up the other 2 seats. Q2. Smile and take the seat. Then alight at next stop. Seriously, I have gone through that embarrassment before. So shy.
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Wednesday, 13 August 2008 3:45 pm
i help to hold the old man's arm to balance on crazy train, let the preggers sit and ask her to hold the 2 week old baby. Can? 8. JayWalk left...
JD: Were you tubby then that you were mistaken to be pregnant?
Grasshopper: What can I say? You are brilliant. Machiam like solving some IQ puzzle like that!
Wednesday, 13 August 2008 5:09 pm ::
msvindicta: Wah.... fierce! JD: Were you tubby then that you were mistaken to be pregnant?
Grasshopper: What can I say? You are brilliant. Machiam like solving some IQ puzzle like that!
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Wednesday, 13 August 2008 9:43 pm
MisterJay: The infant is in the arms of the parent, rite? Infant in parent's arms safer than a 9-mth pregnant lady swaying n trying to keep her balance. 10. JD left...
Wednesday, 13 August 2008 11:58 pm
Unfortunately I still am TUBBYYYYYYYYYYYY 11. JayWalk left...
JD: No you're not! Unless I was totally blinded by the white bra under the UV light.
Thursday, 14 August 2008 11:58 am ::
Slyvie: Infant in the arm of the parent and balancing precariously in the cabin. JD: No you're not! Unless I was totally blinded by the white bra under the UV light.
12. starm|st left...
today a lady pointed to the empty seat beside her for me to sit.. i hope it's because i look f-tired and not because i look preggy :/
Thursday, 14 August 2008 5:02 pm
but by the person offering the seat to me, ppl will already know like 'hey, she's preggy?'. i mean, it will already draw attention. today a lady pointed to the empty seat beside her for me to sit.. i hope it's because i look f-tired and not because i look preggy :/
13. Sylvie left...
Thursday, 14 August 2008 9:15 pm
Win lor. All should not be taking public transport for their own safety then. They should be chauffeured around, either by taxi drivers or relatives. :-) 14. JayWalk left...
sylvie: don't drama queen lah!
Friday, 15 August 2008 12:39 am ::
Starmist: Tis better to be mistaken as preggy then to be certified as pudgy. sylvie: don't drama queen lah!
15. Chocolate gal left...
(2) Smile and reject the offer. I usually use my bag to cover my tummy so nobody knows i am like 3 mth preg type.. hahaha..
Saturday, 16 August 2008 9:47 am
1) Preg woman. then get others to give up the seats.. I did it once very politely to a guy and he gave up his seat for the old man.. Anyway, got this sign at all the corner seats.. so easily to target.. if they refused, i will kick up a big fuss :p (2) Smile and reject the offer. I usually use my bag to cover my tummy so nobody knows i am like 3 mth preg type.. hahaha..
16. JayWalk left...
Saturday, 16 August 2008 10:08 am ::
Chocolate Gal: So what if there is only 1 seat in the entire cabin? i.e. you won't be able to get other people to give up their seats since there were none else elsewhere? 17. ahla left...
to the 100 year old man.then suggest others to sit on the floor.
Saturday, 16 August 2008 1:05 pm
im a male so i will only answer qn. 1 to the 100 year old man.then suggest others to sit on the floor.
18. JayWalk left...
1) Pass the infant to the pregnant lady while the latter takes the seat. Then the parent, now that he/shen has his/her hands free will help the 100 year-old man stand in the MRT cabin.
2) Accept the seat and play along. Better to let people mistake you as pregnant than to acknowledge the fact that you are just as tubby as the next pregnant lady.
Sunday, 17 August 2008 9:44 am ::
AhLa: I like Grasshopper's answer the best. 1) Pass the infant to the pregnant lady while the latter takes the seat. Then the parent, now that he/shen has his/her hands free will help the 100 year-old man stand in the MRT cabin.
2) Accept the seat and play along. Better to let people mistake you as pregnant than to acknowledge the fact that you are just as tubby as the next pregnant lady.
19. Sylvie left...
Tuesday, 19 August 2008 9:33 pm
Seriously, these people should not be taking public transport. Some caring family members should be driving them around for whatever they want to do or at least get them taxis. 20. Sylvie left...
Tuesday, 19 August 2008 9:36 pm
Just came to my mind, if society is gracious enough, we wouldn't need to be talking about this at all. Sad. 21. Sylvie left...
You can now ban me for spamming you. :)
Tuesday, 19 August 2008 9:47 pm
Me again. Chivalry is not limited to the guys. I've given up my share of seats to kids, pregnant, older folks. I've held the door open for healthy, able people (including guys) just because I'm able to assist and well, why be so calculative? Why must it be guys who need to be chivalrous? Proper upbringing is the root of chivalry & good deeds. You can now ban me for spamming you. :)
22. JayWalk left...
I disagree that people of their circumstances should be dissuaded from taking public transportation. Public transportation is for everyone. Young and old, male or female. Able bodied or otherwise etc.
Granted that alternative transport may be better but it doesn't mean that public transportation is not a viable option.
This is merely a hypothetical scenario and I am sure why the society still lacking in social graces, still have the minimum standard that we won't get to see any of the 3 examples getting stranded without a seat.
Tuesday, 19 August 2008 9:54 pm ::
Sylvie: Ban for what? Constructive comments always welcome. I disagree that people of their circumstances should be dissuaded from taking public transportation. Public transportation is for everyone. Young and old, male or female. Able bodied or otherwise etc.
Granted that alternative transport may be better but it doesn't mean that public transportation is not a viable option.
This is merely a hypothetical scenario and I am sure why the society still lacking in social graces, still have the minimum standard that we won't get to see any of the 3 examples getting stranded without a seat.
23. akk left...
just put ur hand delicately behind ur back and ease the spine. then voila, some good samaritan will automatically give me a seat becos I'm so obviously a young mum. and without my ring on my finger...a young UNWED mother who surely deserves some sympathy.
Friday, 22 August 2008 12:46 am
TMD...ive been offered seats many many times! what's wrong with that? incidentally, i was wearing maternity clothes can?just put ur hand delicately behind ur back and ease the spine. then voila, some good samaritan will automatically give me a seat becos I'm so obviously a young mum. and without my ring on my finger...a young UNWED mother who surely deserves some sympathy.
there was this one time this lady offered me a seat, i thank her nicely and sat down, making sure the tummy is hiddne by my bag, just in case she finds out im not preganat and get embarassed.
Friday, 22 August 2008 11:05 am ::
Akk: You and you wear-maternity-clothes-to-eat-buffet. *facepalm* 
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